Two-Faced Mother in Law

**Seraphim** · 07-17-2009 07:43 PM

Hey guys, I'm not sure what to do about my two faced MIL. She's usually very friendly with me, although sometimes passive aggressive, but I just ignore that. However, she makes up complete lies about me to my other ILs and to her various friends. She tells people that I'm an "evil b****". And that everytime I see her, I scream "I hate you, you ing b****". I mean seriously, how can people even believe that? I've never called her any names at all, and I'm very polite to her as my parents taught me how to treat my elders. I'm not sure how they can believe what she says about me, when it's not like me and her are ever alone together, my husband is always there with me and usually various other ILs as well, and they see me being respectful to her.

I wonder if she just likes stirring up drama, or if she's pathological and really believes this stuff. I don't think there's any point in confronting her, as she'd just deny it. Meanwhile, the other ILs and her little friends are glaring at me and hating on me because of the things she tells them. We don't see them all that often, so I'm trying to just ignore it, but it hurts to know that she's lying about me and that people believe it.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-17-2009 08:12 PM

Well, if she's a pathalogical lier, don't you think your husband would be aware of that from his up-bringing?

Have you spoken to him about how you feel?

What does he say?

I think that you both need to sit down with her and ask her if she is in-fact saying these things because it's hearsay to start with, your getting this third hand, not saying it's not being said, however, a story is just that.

And, you need to ask her why she feels that way if she does and if you can sort it out, and then your husband needs to say "Mum" respect ..................she's my wife, what ever you think, keep it to yourself.

CW

**Seraphim** · 07-17-2009 08:19 PM

My husband knows. An IL forwarded me one of her trash talking emails. My husband has also confronted her on it, but she just wont stop.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-17-2009 08:21 PM

Then your husband has to stand up for you and get to the bottom of it, and talk to those whom are looking down at you,

I'm not passing the buck to him, but it's "his" Mother that's doing the damage and as you say, he's confronted her but to no avail...

It's not fair to you to walk on egg shells is it?

CW

**SilentPeace** · 07-18-2009 08:59 AM

Ewww so icky! I have a SIL that does this. She has MIL and FIL wrapped around her little finger and she just does not stop.

I feel for you!

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