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Aaaah now I understand what you meant. In other sports he doesn't take the defeats so badly. I guess the problem for him (and for 99% of other guys) is losing to a girl (even younger) in a martial arts match.
Anyway, I'll keep you posted
What I meant by "sore loser" was, how has he behaved after a loss in any other competition he's been in?
But if his little sister is better than he is, then he needs to apply himself more. Hopefully a new master will help. Keep us posted.
OG
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Aaaah now I understand what you meant. In other sports he doesn't take the defeats so badly. I guess the problem for him (and for 99% of other guys) is losing to a girl (even younger) in a martial arts match.
Anyway, I'll keep you posted
Absolutely, but also cause she's a girl.
You have to also I think anyway, help him find his niche.
See you are all competing with the same thing. Like WC's answer, but at the end of the day you are all doing the same thing and he's the one that is not as good and worse, to someone who is a female and worse, it's his sister.
Yet, we are all EXCELLENT at something and maybe he needs to and you all need to find what it is that inspires him personally so he can excell and get the aclaim he deserves.
It's hard to follow, shadows.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Thanks CHANDLERS WISH. As I already said in another post, I talked to him about this possibility: quitting judo and try something else, after all he's still young to begin another sport and to become good in it. The problem is that he likes judo so much and even that he wants to show me and his sister that he can be as good in it or even better. So, for now, the best solution is send him to another sensei and divide him from his sister during trainings.
I too think sending your son to a male sensei would be a wise choice to help him in this. I understand that the sport is about competition but it seems like the desire to win needs to be toned down a bit in both your son and daughter.
I'm sure I'll raise the ire of most western women here by saying what I'm saying this but when I was little my friends (boys and girls) all practiced Aikido together and some of us were better than some of the boys we sparred with. During practice though we occasionally sparred with the boys but mostly just girls. When we did, even if we were better than they were, we just let them win and everyone was happy. My girlfriends had a laugh about it afterwards and the boys felt good and could keep their strut.
During tournament it was different. Even if they were in the same class, we all fought our best and if a girl beat a boy from the same class, we earned their respect there and we never had problems so much with this male ego.
Just a thought.
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