debido

Every one has experienced a pushy person who won't take no for an answer. Oh, come on, try it (,No thanks!) But you have to come on,( No thanks). Come on, (No!) Don't be a baby. (NO)
Oh my God come on.. (resentfully does what you don't want to do...)

I have encountered this with Judy 1 time to many. She has taken photos of me when I asked repeatedly for her not to take them. It's not o.k.
When I asked her to remove them off the internet a minimum of 6 times-- each time becoming more upset that I had to ask more than one time she refused so I gave up.

I went to Judy's and was in the pool and requested again not to take pictures of me, She for some sick reason thinks she can do whatever and say whatever the she wants to everyone.
The following day there Pictures of me wet in the pool in a bathing suit on the internet, I called Judy again repeatedly to remove them and she just flat out refused.

I called Judy the following day and left a message that I was through with her, I had no idea she could be so cruel and I meant it. I have defended Judy''s arrogant, demeaning, thoughtless remarks to more than half the members of this Family, but this time she got me.

Judy has done nothing to resolve this however she did comment on Face book she was interested in Family not my Drama. 2 Months and the photos are still there.

Judy has thrown away a relationship with me for a picture that is my right and my choice-- because she has to win?

Judy's behavior is nothing short of a sick, sadistic person and I have no reason to hide this, I will tell any one who will listen.
I can and have examined from 100 different angles and none of it matters- It still goes back to she has no right whatever excuse she comes up with, what she has done is inexcusable and certainly not how you treat a Sister.
So yes I'm Devastated, I have held every Family function since my Mothers death. That's over. I'm devastated now because of the lack of regard for my feelings, I understand now shes leaving snide remarks about how I've hurt her, but says she will never apologize, nor take off the pictures.
1 of the photos, I was asking her not to take them as she was and I'm in the pool, looking like a whale with watermellons for breasts. shes claiming she loves her family and wants to share photos of them. I don't think I can ever go back from this. My older Sister refuses to be involved and says she sees both sides, I do not get it, I did not want pictures taken and certainly not put on the internet, how can there be 2 sides. Help, Thanks, Debbie

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There are always two sides to every story..

She is proud of family, your Mother has passed and so she takes pictures to ensure memories and facebook is family/friends only not for the world to see...

I don't see her being vendictive rather, stubborn. Have you ever considered that she may be devistated over your Mother's death as well? And, so needs these pictures, these memories of people in her life now, pictures that she never took before?

And, do you think she took them because you feel like you look like a whale with watermelons as breasts to be vendictive? Why do you feel that way, what was she like before all of this..

We are all beautiful and we should never feel ashamed of our bodies, beauty is within..

You have yourself some anger built up there, no doubt you have been the strength in the past of the family, have you grieved enough yourself or are you holding in anger?

I think you may be viewing this differently, rather than perhaps, she's just strong willed, strong minded and will do her own thing. And, so should you..

I do understand she is not respecting your wishes and she should consider your thoughts for sure, but ask her why it's important to her to have your photos... See if she answers simular to the above, have a heart to heart....

Don't be embarrased mainly is what I want to say to you, over these photos.. You are who you are and family don't give a darn.. They love each and everyone as they are, that's what blood is about.

CW

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