Need some advise regarding my mom. First let me say she's the best. She was a single mom and raised me and my sister, she worked and went to college at night. Not once did we ever want for anything. Not only possessions but emotionally and mentally. Now that I am older, we're like best friends. I tell her things I don't even tell mt best friend. I love her to death. I gave her four grand boys and soon after my last son, my sister gave her another graandson and a year later a granddaughter. My mother was very close to my 3rd son and until my sisters son came along, he spent everyday with her and her husband. Now she spends every waking moment with my sisters son and favors him over the others. my older sons don't really see it and could probably careless as they are involved in so many other things. My 4yr old well, he still goes to her house but they don't really spend time together anymore. As for my 2yr old, that's where the problem comes in. He loves his grandma and always wants to see her and talk to her and she doesn't give him the time of day. She always says hes too loud or doesn't play nice with my sisters son. She has actually ignored him when she has my nephew. It really hurts me and bothers me, but I'm not sure what would be the best way to approach this situation. I don't want to hurt her or accuse her of things, but I'm not the only one who sees it. Help?

First, it is important to know that....just as a mother loves all of her children the same, I'm sure a grandmnother loves all of her grandchildren the same!!! This story is a little personal to me because while growing up, my aunt and cousins always said that my grandma favored my brother and me more...but that was not true! My grandma baby-sat my two cousins almost on a daily basis. She wouldn't see my borther and me as often, so she would be really excited when she DID get to see us! Maybe you should consider the amount of time that the grandma gets to spend with ALL of the children. Maybe you visit her with your children when the cousins are not at the house. This way, she can give them individual attention. Possibly, take her out to dinner with the kids! Good luck! Hope I helped~princess

Thank you for responding. I appreciate any advice I can get. Let me just add it's hard for me to cacth her alone with out my nephew because my sister and her 2kids live with her. But the dinner w/just my kids-sounds great-Thanks!!!!

Glad to help in any way!!!!

No mention in your thread if the sister's son may need the attention more then your son and the grandmother giving it to him. Don't want to get all in your business but since your sister and her kids live with your mom they may be going through things you are not aware of.

maybe she`s more of a sister to you if there is a small age gap