Kallygirlie

Well I've talked to you all about my bf family. Well things have gotten worse. Before, they just complained about us not coming over but now they have my bf feeling ganged up on and attacked. Part of him feeling like this has me completely not wanting to step foot in their house because honestly I have a big mouth and I'll end up saying something they wont like.

So this time it started with his sister sending him a text saying "thanks alot for coming over, I was waiting for you". Neither him nor I know why in the heck she even thought he was coming over considering he was at work when this happened. He never told her he would come over. Any who, so the next day he talked to his Mom. I wasn't there but he tells me that it turned in to a heated argument. I have to say I'm so proud of him for finally telling them that he is soo tired of them whining over him not coming over all the time because he's trying to live is life.

Well the biggest issue is what he told his sister when we were at the beach. He took time out of his fun to call them and check on them, his little sister who is about 14 gets ont he phone and starts asking about what happened to their other sister Jennifer. His sister said that thier parents wouldn't give them any info other than she was sick and passed away. she told my BF that she really wishes she could have met her (she is the youngest) and wanted to know and understand what really happened. I think my bf was about 16 when Jennifer passed away from SIDS. So my brother told her what he remembered, she asked questions, he answered them. After they got off the phone, we were told his sister dropped to her knees and started balling her eyes out, then thier brother (who was a tot when it happened) got upset when she told him what was said. Now the family is irate that he told her this stuff.

Maybe its just me but I dont see why they should be mad. his sister is old enough to know what happened, she asked to know. I understand it was a really hard time for the family and I'm sure it still hurts for his parents to talk about it but younger siblings get curious. Jennifer would have been 16 now. I know I asked mom a thousand questions when I found out she had a miscarriage before me.

Of course the conversation of me and him going to my parents "all the time" came up. UGH!!!! it's flippin annoying. Dont know how in the heck they found out this time. we went to celebrate my nieces 2nd birthday and the next day went to pick up my unemployment papers.

You guys gave me such great advice last time so I would really love to hear what you have for me this time. Him and i are at the end and we completely feeling pushed away from the family. Of course they say they dont want to push him away but really what else is all this gonna do.

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Krystal

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Okay babe...

See, it's the parents that had the child and lost that child.

It's the parents that had your man's sister.

It's the parents who make the decision to explain what happened to their other daughter when they feel that the time is right, it's their priogrative, not anyone elses.

I"m sorry but if I was a parent I would be upset with my son as well, for not conversing with me first and discussing that she's asking and asking if they want to discuss it or perhaps it may be better to come from him.

It's still close to their heart number 1) but more importantly, it's always the parents choice of what they say or don't say to a child and 14, she is still a child, I appreciate you both think she's grown, certainly, but she's not an Adult and they may have wished to tell her when she was, so that she didn't break down as she did.

Or, in their comfort so they can hold her, instead of her dropping the phone hearing it over a telephone.

When someone loses a child, they hold onto each other child with their life.

It's something no one understands at all, it's not like an Aunty or Uncle, it's a child....

I think your son needs to talk to them and communicate and understand....

Sorry Krystal.

I am an old bag, lol.. and this is what I see.

CW

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