Thread: Father nasty to me

Hi, everyone.

i-like-tea, that is definitely the only sure way of escaping this problem. Friend lives with her mother and they would certainly not have me stay. A room alone could be one idea but I would take my mother with me and maybe my sister if she wanted but she does not seem bothered too much by his abusive language. Anyone know how much a room for me and my mother would cost? I get around £70 per week.

Yesterday my mother got really fed up with him and they are both not talking to each other at all as he started yet another row. He basically went on at her about the lights in the room while she was serving dinner as he said there were too many on and when she told him she needed them to see what she was doing while putting the dinner out, he basically walked off and said he would go in the other room until she had turned them off and put dinner out and that he could have been doing something else (think my mother told me that he told her he could have been reading his magazine!). She is very angry that he did not show any appreciation for her working flat out to cook dinner. She is not pleased that he takes her for granted. This morning she made him do his own breakfast which I totally agreed with as I think he acts like a spoilt little child most of the time. There is absolutely no need for such childish behaviour.

Earlier yesterday (before the dinner argument) he dictated what I should be doing, instead of leaving me alone to my own thing (I am now an adult...) and he then moans "What is wrong with everybody?!" as I walk down the stairs as I had no time for his petty argument starting all the time so decided to walk off.

All he looks for is a fight and nothing else...

He is such a sulker too and is now not talking to me or my mother. He keeps avoiding us, walking into another room of our house whenever either of us presents.

Why is he so childish? He is a grown man and should know better and act like it too.

I was having an "ok" Christmas and New Year's Eve until he decided to ruin it (again as always - he has to ruin something for somebody else).

I have suggested to my mother that he may have a problem and that it might be a good idea for him to see a doctor but he refuses as he says it is all of us that have a problem. I do wonder if some Valium or something like that would do him good as it would calm him down a little. My mother said that he used to be on Valium.

I am now up in my bedroom, staying out of the tense atmosphere as I do not want to get involved as I am trying to enjoy myself to be honest and do not want, or need for that matter, such negativity that he brings constantly.

Kind regards

Gamma