Thread: How do I get my husband's family to accept me?

One of the tricks in life, is to pretend you don't know.

Sometimes you are lucky, you really don't know.
You are being insulted or passed over, and don't
know, so go on and on in blissful ignorance.

Other times, you know, but realise that if you didn't,
you'd go on in blissful ignorance, so pretend that you
don't know.

In your case, pretend.
Pretend everything is just fine.

You'll make yourself feel better and either force them
to really get nasty, (and be unable to escape it) or
they'll tune down their rejection.

Either way, you won't worry about it.

No offense Chelsea, but do you think you might be doing something to offend his family ?

100% agree with Kaylar.
I have many married girlfriends who face this exact problem.
ignorance ...
ignorance ...
ignorance ...
pretend that there is nothing going on.
be normal
and avoid too much eye contacts with them,
avoid too much taking with them trying to be too friendly, becauseit will make it even worse.
avoid too much contact with this brother.
and don't forget to show respect for his parents. that will be always appreciated.
one important point is to avoid complaining about them in front of your husband
I think your husband was wise when he did not want to discuss the issue with them
remember that a good man is the one who is trying to win both his family and his wife.

What I get from your letter is that this came out
of a 'clear blue sky', one day she was asking you
when the babies were coming, the next day she
was a block of ice.

If this is close to the situation, then obviously
you did nothing, your bf did nothing, something
happened in her side of the world.

First...maybe she was influenced by others..or
Second...maybe she felt you were 'taking him away'
from her...which considering their past doesn't sound
right.

What I'd do...

Send her a mother's day card, invite her to dinner
at some fancy place, (to avoid scenes).
Act as if everything is wonderful and she's a great
mother. Compliment her a few times...

Now, if she doesn't show up to the dinner or offers
an excuse..."I've made other plans", assume she's
having a wild social life, and make it seem that the
reason she's not interested any more is because of
her exciting social life.

For Example...

Wife knew Brian's mother had some issues, and when
she invited her over and Brian's mother gave some
stupid excuse about having another engagement,
Wife went on all happy and enthusiastic with, "I know
you're not sitting home and knitting!" (Implying she
had a boyfriend and wild sex life).

She told the husband that his mother was getting
her second wind and that he shouldn't make her
feel 'guilty' by 'neglecting' him for she had a right
to be happy.

Now let me underline it...
Brian's mother was a miserable angry bag of issues
who resented Wife's position in Brian's life.
She said she had made other plans meaning 'i don't
want to see you', but Wife took it on 'face value'
that she had made other plans, and ran with it.

Now here's the beauty of the stategy...

Mother said 'she had other plans'...
Wife 'believed' her.
Now what kind of other plans would take precedence
over a dinner with her son? Ah! A MAN! What else
could it be but a NEW MAN!

You see how it works?