I Can't Handle My Sister Anymore!

**LiLp** · 01-10-2010 12:14 AM

Well for the past week my sister has been up and down with me, now I just can't handle her anymore.

Im just gonna come out with it. I had gotten diagnosed with an std a few months back and I let my parents kno(we have a pretty open relationshiip) well I told her because she thought she was goin through the same thiing, she wasn't, I told her because I thought I would be able to trust her. Maybe let her mind relax and tell her thiings I kno(that it common).

Anyway, One day we get in an arguement, Can't even remember what about and she starts screamin it loud, when family is over(only my parents kno). I just couldn't believe it. I cried because now I kno I can't trust her. I've come to grips with my situation since my parents still treat me the same and my boyfriend understands and doesn't mind.

I swear I thiink she is Bi-polar. I can't take it. She says I am but honestly I just have a temper problem and when I'm stressed or irritated its a shorter fuse. She yells and calls me names like disgustin and such but then wants me to do thiings for her.

We share a room so there is no way to get away from her, I wanna move out with a friend but I wont without a job and right now Im goin to trade school and enlistin again.

I can't take her. She just makes me want to cut her off, Like I really don't want a relationshiip with her anymore.

Its hard enough to maintain a positive mindset about enlistin, and about myself without her doin that to me.

...Idk what to do anymore. I can't take her, I have to be the one to leave since she doesn't have a diploma or job.

Sorry Its just been weighin on my mind...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-10-2010 02:58 AM

It would be beautiful to trust our own family, but sometimes it is not able to be achieved.

There could be some jealousy there, all I can say is don't confide with her anymore.

She maybe bipolar use reverse phsycology and ask her are you sad? What can I do to help? Change the pattern of I don't like my sister, she's normal hold off she has a problem i may get more attention, to wow, my sister cares?

See if that gets you somewhere would be my suggestion..

CW

**sperosi** · 01-10-2010 06:38 AM

or something called borderline personality disorder. go search for that and see.

hopefully you have gone to a Doctor and received treatment for the STD. if not, please do so right away.

regardless, she shouldnt be treating you like this. you are a good person and deserve better. finish trade school and do the best you can during school.

which service are you enlisting in?

**LiLp** · 01-10-2010 06:59 AM

I've gone to the doctors. I researched and got everything unde control. I handled it right away.

I'm tryin to join the Marine Corps now I need a medical waiver and tattoo waiver. They say I have a decent chance. As long as I study hard and do good on a test.

**sperosi** · 01-10-2010 07:16 AM

good for you! keep up the positive attitude, just dont pay attention to your jealous sister, and weather out the nonsense for a little while longer.

I know you are a strong young woman, and will be a great marine!

**LiLp** · 01-12-2010 01:06 AM

Thank you.
I don't hear that to much except from my boyfriend but when I do it helps me keep my head up.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-12-2010 01:21 AM

Kind of a proud feeling doing something worthwhile for yourself career wise, I second sperosi's response 100%...

As well as your attidude with life, you'll go far.

Your sister may be younger or older than you but see where she's at with her life verses where you at.

Perhaps it's jealousy which is a word I dislike very much....

You have a great relationship with your parents, with your boyfriend and with life and where your going.

Don't dispise her, she may not have the same directions as you and this was her, haha, ... one day she will grow up sweet.

CW

**ScaredandExcited** · 01-15-2010 11:05 AM

I can understand were your coming from, cause i myself caught a std, its really embarassing to know that your partner knows and has caught it off you, let alone your sister who you though you could trust shouting it out like its gossip!!! I always ague with my sister, and been as she lives in the same house its hard. I have a bad temper and so does my sister, apart from she has OCD aswell. She blames me when she misplaces something, saying ive stole it which is really annoying. I think the best thing to do, is wait untill your sister and yourself are in a good mood, and talk to her on a low key, kind of like when a childs naughty and you have to explain what they have done wrong. Just have a convo about how her weeks been ect... then if the convo is still going smoothly try and explain to her that it made you angry and upset that she shouted that out to embarass you infront of your family, tell her when she has a problem she can always come and talk to you and you will keep it private, like what you hoped she would do. Tell her not to tell anybody else, as its personal and not for people to know when they dont have too! Good luck x

**urminenow** · 01-19-2010 11:06 AM

I have encountered that problem also sometimes with my younger sister, sometimes were ok sometimes were not.. Maybe I don't like when she get or borrowed my things with out informing me, and sometimes I felt jealous also because I think my parents love her so much than me, but in the end, i need to accept that because I am more mature than her..I need to understand her..

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