Thread: My Mother Hates me.

Originally Posted by LoveLifeSadnessEtc

Trust me I'm doing my best to get out. I've been to appointments all week and even have a photoshoot for Toni and Guy lined up which I'm doing the make up for. I'm good at hiding how bad everything is at home...I have had many years of practise at it.

I spent years being angry with her, I wanted to hurt her and get even, make her suffer but now I just feel sad and when I got yelled at three times just this morning it does nothing for my self esteem. She'll shout at me for Trivial things, like what spoon I eat cereal with or my expressions even if they are not directed at her. She says 'You make me so angry!' and has threatened to hit me herself just last week.

Nearly everyone who's supposed to love me seems to like making me suffer.

I'm doing all I can here, building a career from scratch but the added pressure of tiptoeing around my mother's moods is making me ill again, I'm not sleeping well and I've lost my appetite...

Dearest, my heart bleeds for you. I, too, grew up in an abusive household but like you, was very good at pretending everything was okay when it definitely wasn't.

I know it's so hard, but letting a close friend in does help a lot. I finally let someone in after the fact and was able to get counseling and begin healing.

I want you to know that this is NOT your fault! Your mother has serious issues that need to be dealt with with a professional.

Please confide in a friend you trust about what is going on in your life. It take a ton of courage, but it's the best thing to do. They can help you, at least maybe giving you a place to live until you can find something more permanent.

Mothers are suppose to be nurturing, gentle, and protect their children.

I know the feeling of wanting to hurt her back. For years, I wanted to hit my mom back but I was too scared of what would happen.

You're so precious and strong and you need to get out from her grasp.

Do you have any relatives who are aware of her behaviour?

I grew up in similar situations and i got married as soon as i turned 18 to a guy i hardly knew (divorced 6 mos later) just so i could get away from my mother. So yes it is very wrong the things she put you through and there are people that can relate. You need to get away from her she is a negative energy and stress! I also have epilepsy and have found when I am at my most stressful moments I am more prone to seizures. I'm told that stress and sleep are two big contributors to this. I wish you well and just know there are people that care!

I know what you are talking about...You are not alone by any means. My own mother hates me, always has. The main reason being that I was nothing like her, but even to this day she yells at me and be little's me as much as she can with " You are worthless" or "How could I ever have a sweet daughter! When I am such a strong !" She equates strength with being a . Ever since I could remember she has been unhappy with me and as I have grown she has become more so...I guess cause the cute little kitty thing wore off, if you know what i mean? Ie it was better for her when I was a child and had that cute kid thing going for me like a kitten. But just like you people do not believe me either, they always believe my mom is some wonderful person that cares greatly about me and my bad health, which is BS she doesn't but she knows how to act like she does...IE save face in front of people! So when I do talk about what my mom has done no one believes me save for my uncle and fiance because they know the truth about my mother ans she has treated them all like ..But most people will jump all over me just like they do you because they believe the image my mom has presented to people as the caring mother of a terminally ill daughter, but truth is shes saying to me behind doors...Wilhelmina! When will you ing die!? Everyone wants you dead already stop hanging on..So not only am i deathly ill but I deal with my moms abuse nearly every day, it has caused me to have depression and huge panic attacks so I know what you mean...And sadly I dont know what to say? Other than get away from her and never have anything to do with her! That is what I want! more than anything! Cause I used to hope she would love me one day, now I know its just a pipe dream...i hope some how my words help you, remember you are not alone there are far more bad mothers out there than good! Hang in there and if you ever need anything please feel free to message me!