i do understand what you are going through, but not exactly the same circumstances.
I too am the child of divorced parents, and as I said in another post in another thread, an awful lot of their fighting and arguing and actions didnt hurt each other, it hurt me and my sibling.
we both heard everything from you have your mothers temper, you have your fathers stupidity, you have your mothers bad manners, to you smell like your father.
i am not a mental health professional, but it does sound like she took out her hurt or whatever she felt from your father leaving out on you. we took a lot of grief from both parents as well, but not to the extreme you did.
i am so sorry this happened to you. it is without question that what happened to you is wrong.