Thread: lying mother-in-law

Excuse me??.. I don't understand, your boyfriend/fiancee lied to you, cheated on you and you were able to forgive him. Your mother in law had the decency to not get involved and you don't like her anymore??.

You must be very young so I'll let you in on a secret... she is his mother. Her loyalty to him trumps everything. The fact that she did not get involved (by not telling you anything) is actually a good thing. She shouldn't have to take sides between you and her son. Get it in your head, she'll be your mother in law.. but she will forever first be HIS mother.


D.

Let's stay in the Real World.

It was not your Mother In Law's place...
considering she was not your mother in law
at the time, we'll call her your BoyFriend's Mother...
BFM...
to tell you anything about what HER SON
did, wanted to do, thought of doing, etc.

Her loyalty is to her Son. Not to You. You were
one of his girlfriends at the time. Why should she
have interferred?

A cousin of mine was going out with a girl, introduced
her to me. I liked her and we became friends.
He decided to date someone else.
I never told her.

Subsequently, he chose the other girl over her.

She rang me up and asked a lot of questions.
I told her; "He's my cousin, I am certainly not
going to tell you any secrets, discuss his private
life, or in any way become involved."

She got angry and hung up as if our friendship...
which only existed through him...gave her the
power to question me.

He's still my cousin.
I haven't thought of her for years...in fact
if I hadn't read this post I wouldn't even
recall her or our conversation.

Originally Posted by livvy

Hey Data7 the reason why I'm feeling this way is because my mother is the type of person who don't like foolishness so if I ever cheated on whoever my boyfriend was he would know because my mom don't believe in playing with people emotions, me growing up with with that type of morals i found it very hard for any mom to take part in something like that much less LIE. As a matter of fact she would come and tell me other stuff that he did so why couldn't see tell me this, I mean things that he wouldn't want me to know, she went behind his back to tell me, so why not that he was cheating.SO THATS WHY I'M SO HURT BY HER ACTION

Sweetie.. I undertand it hurts. I am trying to help you by explaining to you that she really did nothing wrong. DO not expect anything from her. She is his mother. Get it in your head that she is really not your friend. No matter how sweet she can be with you, if tomorrow he dumps you.. she will still be his mother... and still love him alot more than she can ever love you.

He can be the greatest as*hole in the whole world.. and she will always find ways to excuse him and justify him. That's what mothers are for.


C.