Thread: Feeling very confused and SAd and confused

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Your closing off here

There were some questions there, like do you think she loves him and is happy? Or was it lonliness? Have you asked her?

And, so therefore, are you being protective for her? Or are you being protective of yourself and what you had and that you want to be happy where you live and don't, won't accept him?

If your feeling confused you HAVE to ask, pose these questions to her and to yourself sweet.

CW

Well I asked her WHY she got married she said because she was getting older and was alone. I don't think she was ever truly in love with him or really knew him very well. I think he's just someone to be with. Not really on a romantic loving level. I may be protective of her yes. But as Serposi said, All i see is a place to stay and sit on his butt while she works. Just feel like she's not really being loved or appreciated. It just how my dad was and when i look at him it's all i see. I just sometimes think she did jump the gun and just marry him because he was simply there. I want her to be happy and in love like i am. I only want her to have married for the right reasons. I just sometimes see her looking so sad and depressed. I just don't think she did marry for the right reasons. I just think she settled in stead. That REALLY breaks my heart. When she's around him like i said it's different. Not the mom i grew up with. Also noticed when he's not with her he's different too. he's this horriable nasty mentally abusive person. I think she is just acting happy and hurt on the inside. Mom said he's not like that when their alone so. I guess I don't know. I just don't understand him.