Thread: Need advice about my sister-in-law.

My brother has been married for about a year and a half now, and I find that I see less and less of him and his wife anymore. My brother and I have always been close. I have invited them over on occasion, and they have reciprocated as well. I just wish sometimes that I could be closer with my sister-in-law. She has a lot of friends and acquaintances from work and facebook, and seems to pull up a new friend every day. I often notice that she converses with those new friends a lot, but it feels like she never really goes out of her way to try to develop a friendship with me. I like to think of myself as a friendly and kind person, with a good sense of humor. She, on the other hand, can often be serious, very critical, and very dramatic. I have made attempts to spend a little more time with her. I've even taken her out for lunch before. Still, it feels like days turn into weeks and I hear almost nothing from them. I'm at a loss. Why is it so hard to maintain a friendship with her? Before my brother met her, I always imagined myself as being good friends with my future sister-in-law. Isn't that what people want?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

C

It kind of sounds like she's good with acquaintances, just surface friendships. If that's the case, you'll either have to be ok with it and out your efforts into staying close with your brother without her always around or you'll just have to really try harder to make a connection with her.