Thread: His Family is Trying to Split Our Marriage!

I just wanted to talk to someone and get advice. My husband, when we were dating, had trouble with his sister who I will refer to as Sandy. Sandy had serious issues, and threatened me the first time she ever talked to me. When we were engaged, she disguised her voice (very badly) over the phone on my husband's cell phone trying to make me believe that he was cheating on me with someone else. Now, she has pulled his brother Ben into splitting us up, by instigating a phone call making Ben believe that I was the one calling trying to flirt with him while my husband was gone. I never made that call, but Ben is convinced I did. I believe that Sandy had another girl do it for her. Now the family believes that I am cheating on my husband with my brother in-law! I want nothing more to do with her, or the family and the rest of the family has talked badly behind my back saying nasty things, and refuse to let my husband stand up for me. Rather they cut him off when he tries. He can't see they don't care about his own happiness, but he knows I am innocent. I want them all out of our lives with no calls, nothing! But he wants to keep minimal contact. Everytime they call us (we have not called them) they fight when we are trying to be peaceable. Do you have any advice? Please help! I can't do this alone.

We have discovered that it is NOT his sister spreading the lie, it's his ex. She contacted him in August of '09 before I even knew my husband. According to his brother Ben, I have called him 3 times. I didn't even know him back then! We're not sure how to prove it. His ex has always wanted him back. She knew my name and knew enough info to pull off imitating me. Any ideas on how to prove this to the family?