Thread: Can't get along Sister who can't live without Men...

My older sister & I haven't had the best relationship over the years, but the last 2 years have been very tough on me.

2 years ago we discovered my sister was abusing prescription pills & alcohol. We got her into a treatment program (her own wishes at the time) & thought she was doing good. She moved in with me & my FI in Aug 2009 & all (edit) broke loose.

She would mope around for days & go on random dates with a new guy every week, but wouldn't find a job & also was drinking & drugging again.

I told her she had to leave b/c I couldn't be apart of her drug/alcohol abuse. She did move out & the met a guy & moved in with him about 2 weeks after knowing him...long sotry short it didn't work out so she went back to my Mom's with her tail between her legs.

We were on speaking terms, but rough ones when I found out she was dating my boss' son, after I asked her to please not pursue that relationship b/c I knew the state she was in...she was NOT healthy.

Another long story short she moved in with him & across the US after 2 weeks & then I find out she married him with in 2 months & now she is claiming he physically & mentally abused her...

I've met him several times & I do think something is fishy with the relationship but don't feel as if she is being truthful b/c she left him went to my mom's & then went back & said everything was a lie & then about 2 weeks later she left him again & said she lied about lying about him NOT abusing her.

At that point I ended our relationship. I felt as if she betrayed me & not only that she has jeopardized my relationship with my boss & my job. My boss' son is looking at 20 years b/c she stated he sexually abused her...but they were married & when I finally asked her about it she said she was so out of it she doesn't know what happened, but yet she says she told the police/military police.

I didn't speak with her for almost a year & she reahed out so I thought ok I'll give a little more so for my families peace of mind. But once I did I realized she hasn't changed a bit. She left her husband of 3 months in May & in July she was talking to another guy (over the internet, he was in Germany) & then left for Germany to spend 3 weeks with him in Nov.

I'm not sure how it all played out b/c when she got back about 3 weeks later she was in a relationship with a guy she briefly met in SC. That didn't last long & she was on to the next guy.

I'm recently engaged & trying to include her, but we are having an engagement party this Sat. & I find out today she is bringing some random guy to this party...I'm so confused, mad, & irritated.

I don't know how to handle her. I know if she wasn't my sister I wouldn't want herin my life, but I have no choice.

I know it's her life & choices, but she brings it into our family & this last year she affected my life...If anyone can give me some encouraging words, advice, help...whatever I'm willing to listen & try to moe past this insanity!