Thread: Wow, what a life!

So my son was taken away from me by social services a couple months back. And, because they have concerns about me living on my own, and concerns about me continuing to live with my mom, I thought I'd try to get his father involved. So I contacted a couple of his friends and relatives, and finally made some headway, when his ex-best friend told me he was, now, living in a homeless shelter. I just went in to look around for him at first, then, decided to volunteer there. I'm going on my fourth day of volunteering, in both the kitchen and laudromat, and still haven't found him. His ex-best friend said he wasn't working, which doesn't make that much sense, considering you have to trasition into housing that you pay for yourself after ninety days. I don't want to call his ex-best friend back to tell him I've been volunteering over there, because he said, during our last convo, that he hopes we don't get back in touch, because I'm sweet and he wouldn't want to see his ex-best friend/the father of my child take advantage of me. But he also said that, if the father of my child tries contacting him again, he'll give him my number. There's a privacy act at the shelter, too, so you can't page anybody or let anybody know that, you're only volunteering to find a specific someone. So, even if I do call his ex-best friend back, chances are, he won't know exactly where he's staying in the shelter, either. All I can say is, I made a huge mistake, by not telling him he had a child for three years, because we really hit it off, even if we only spent a day and a half together. We were a lot alike. All I was looking for was a one-night-stand at the time, and I told him so, yet he said he loved me at the end of one of his E-mails to me. But I was so turned off, after I found out I was pregnant that, I'm afraid I let my hormones get in the way of what was supposed to be a future with him What should I do? How long should I volunteer, before giving up? I only have 'til July 'til the trial, where social services is applying for permanent guardianship!