Thread: help! is it just me????

My sister in law is so wierd... i'm trying to figure out what her problem is... and i'm wondering if I'm just reading too much into it or what. She is married to my husband's brother so we've known each other for 10 years now... we moved to a different state so we don't see each other only at family occasions.. but when we do see each other she barely says a word.. acts like she's almost snobby.. then when we are leaving she always says "i love you guys"... ok .. I personally would love a little conversation, catching up when we do see each other... but she doesn't talk.. I've tried carrying on conversation.. doesn't work... mind you she's a very moody person & always has been but the last few holidays I leave and I feel hurt like is she not liking me for some reason? I don't get it... one thing I feel is that we have 2 different lifestyles... my husband & I both work full time and own a home, good kids.. well set financially.. she on the other hand is a housewife, home raising their kids,, they are always strapped for money, live in a small farmhouse.. Basically sometimes I feel like she's jealous.. but honestly the way my husband & I are there should be no reason, we are very friendly outgoing people... what is the deal? should I confront her about it??? advice would be great!

I know how you feel. I was really close with my Sister-in-law than after an altercation we became distant. I tried, after apologies were given from both sides to be friends with her again. It was hard, but it seemed like we were going in the right direction. Then all of a sudden I got the feeling that she thought she was better than us. We are not well off and due to health reasons I am unable to work, so I stay at home with my daughter and play house wife. We are always feeling like we need more cash even though we make it through paying all the bills. She too is a stay at home mom, her husband makes a little more than us but basically they are the same as us. She just puts on a front of being better than us. Every time I try to make plans with her she says she is busy than it is our fault that we didn't get to do something. It is hard to work on this relationship, my husbands and my relationship, and my other in-law relationships. The best advice I can give you is let her feel as important in your life as you want to be in her life. If she suggest you use something that is a off brand item, let her know that you will try it. I am sure you don't push your money in her face, and that is not what I am saying. Just remember that while you have money, she has time. All she sees is the nice car, nice house and how happy you and your husband are. While she struggles with money she may be struggling in her marriage too. A lot of people think that money would make them happier. You know if only I had a job like her than he would love me more. I envy all women who hold a job in this economy, heck I envy all people who have a job now a days. She may feel like she is not doing her part as a partner, Mother, and woman. Don't offer to pay for things as that might make her feel worse, I know you all don't see each other as much as you would if you lived in the same area, but when you are around her imagine what it would be like for you if you didn't have that job...how would that make you feel if you watched your husband work all day and come home tired only to barely scrap by payday to payday. It is hard to find a job now, so unless she chooses not to look for work than she is a victim of economic circumstance that she can not change.