Thread: Moving/Family Problems

My parents are divorced, and they have been since I was 7. Both of my parents are in the military and I have been living with my mom since the divorce. My dad found out last week that he has to move to Texas by the end of July. My mom also found out that she has to move to Ohio. I get along better with my dad, my mom and I are always fighting. I want to move with my dad because I think it will be better for me in the long run. My mom is very selfish so it is hard to talk to her about moving with my dad. Every time I bring up the conversation, she changes the subject and I am left frustrated and angry or she says that since I am a minor still, she gets to choose where I am going. I am running out of time before my dad has to leave and I have to start making moving preparations. My mom is moving with my brother who is going to college and my step dad and my dad is moving by himself. One of the many reasons why I want to move with my dad is because I want to keep him company. Do I have any say in the matter? Can I choose who I want to live with? How should I bring up the subject with my mom in which she will actually listen to my side. I don't want to get a lawyer involved in this because for one, I don't have time for that. I am trying to make the best of a sad situation and I don't want my parents fighting over me. It's either I move against my will or I move out to live with my dad when I'm 18. What should I do?

I would tell your Dad what you want and tell him that your Mom says you have to do what she says. I know you don't want them to "Fight" over you but your Mom may have other reasons she doesn't want you to move. Sometimes maternal feelings get misconstrued as selfishness. Also it could be that your Mother knows something your Dad isn't telling you about the move and she is protecting you from getting hurt. Remember you may know your Dad pretty well, but your Mom knows him better than you. Again I would tell Dad and if he says that you have to do what Mom says, than take that as face value...give Dad a hug and remember that even in different states parents love their kids.