Thread: Bored SAHM

Originally Posted by LanaBear

lay in the bathtub with a good book.

Bring a waterproof friend with you ! It may relieve some stress and make your desire levels increase... You never know...

Can you pick up a hobby or part time job while your kids are at school. Sounds like you need adult (non-family) interaction. You're just not being stimulated enough.
Do something out of the ordinary that is not surban-stay-at-home-mom stuff. If you like to volunteer, try a local women's shelter or the animal shelter. Get out and meet other adults that have lives that aren't focused around their kids. You definitely need, and deserved a bit of time for yourself that is separate from your home and family.

Rediscover your dreams. What would like to learn or experience? Take a class a couple days a week, either for education or fun. Get yourself a dream vacation savings account and start putting a little here and a little there away for it.

Set long term fun goals (a date night weekly), and short term goals (that dream vacation). Start a fitness program, at home if you can't go out. Exercise is an excellent mood enhancer, stress reliever, and it can make you feel good about yourself and help to broaden your happiness.

Saving up for your future and when you are both old and whatnot is good and responsible and should continue. But life is happening right here, right now. Its crucial to plan for your future, but important to take the time to enjoy the ride... and it doesn't always have to cost to enjoy it.

Set aside some time for you and your husband to connect on a physical level, to dress up (or not dress at all) get a sex book and read to each other at night in bed... try some roleplay etc... sometimes spicing up your sex life can help you find your passion again, in all areas of life... not just the bedroom.

Take a safe risk once a month, or every couple of months. And by safe I mean nothing that could risk your health, finances or relationship - and by risk I mean stepping out of your comfort zone and living a little. If you are embarassed to get up in front of people force yourself to sing one song of karoake at the local bowling alley or something. Color your hair that color you always wanted to , even just a temp color. Reach out to an old friend you swore you'd never talk to again... appolgize for something you should have long ago but were too afraid of the awkardness etc... Things like that.

Get some "Me time" EVERY DAY... even if its just a 30 minute soak in the tub. Time to reflect and pamper yourself. You are taking care of everyone else, and you need to be in a good relaxed well taken care of state to do so. Don't feel guilty about getting a sitter so that you can meet a friend for coffee and window shopping on a wednesday afternoon... you have a loving family that you are apart of , but you are also an individual and it sounds like you feel you are losing yourself... you don't have to!

I am not a mother...But my mom was a SAHM, she used to occasionally "treat" us kids to a weekend at a friends house or something. She used to ask if I wanted to go spend the weekend or the night at one of my friends houses. I have 3 siblings so I know it can be hard to arrange a sleepover for all 4 kids. But I'm sure it can be worth it! You can then get some "alone" time or "together" time.