Thread: my eight year old son

Hello there second thread, my eldest son, is now headed for 9 years of age, and lately well. i have been pushed to the limits as to how i can help him.

He has become fascinated with sexual talk, and he stares at his little sister, which i know is curiosity, i have been a little too laid back, my daughter and son were colouring in her bedroom and she came back and told me he had said to her they were going to have sex, i know she did not make it up as she is only 4, and he denies having spoken to her like this. (still three months on)

I acted quickly and soon found out his friends at school have nude pictures on their phones, and they talk about all the bits and bobs. I am a bit shocked as they all range from 8 to ten year olds, their is curiosity and then there is too much, i am going to see the principal during the week, as its a little discomforting they are accessing these things. So after a year of putting it off i sat him down and did the sex education talk, and why family is off limits and so on trying to keep it as innocent as possible, leaving out all the stuff he doesnt need to knw till later where babies come from and all sort, but made it clear, babies are made when people love one another and so forth as i want him to seek a healthy richer life from knowing in a tasteful and respectful maner, i thought i would be dead cool with it, and would be great and i would be cool, but it was possibly the most embaressing moment of my life, i stumbled with speech and it was the longest hour of my life. Him too, he later fessed up and i found a page three newspaper girl in his room a couple of months earlier, he has admitted to feeling strange and different even though girlfriends are disgusting, but it made him feel nice, so the talk was about puberty and changing, both girls and boys, and why its important to respect women, despite what his friends are talking about. He knows he can approach me whenever he feels like it and discuss things with me. But i have to watch him now with my little girl and i feel terrible. she hasnt spoken of the incident since and i presume she has simply moved on as i was worried what impact it would have on her. But the only real trouble, is trying to get my eldest not to speak to the others about it, its a shame i had to do the sex education talk so young, but he had me weary for over a year, and his father is furious with me, ( ex failed relationship)i thought it was the right thing to do. and still do. Any ideas?

thanks a lot

nice input, thanks for everything, i really appreciate hearing it from a boy perspective also. Its nice to hear what my son is possibly going through. For him i know its a challenging but new and exciting time for him, as exploring is part of the transition to growing. We are pretty open here at home, not walking round naked or anything like that, but open in discussing how we feel and whats new. I dont want him to feel its dirty or something to be ashamed of, as i knew this day of curiosity was coming albeit a little sooner than anticipated. But i want him to have a certain respect on a level towards women and other members. We have discussed my daughter since, and he has admitted, and apologised. Its hard to know how to react you know, as kids are such open books they soak all information, every facial expression, i know he takes in. As i found out about santa and condoms on the same day, lol, and i remember every word, every facial expression.I think i was 8 too. So my reaction was simply ok, we spoke about it and agreed it should not happen again, as its not fair, and its not correct behaviour.

xoxox