My childish sister

**KaydeQ** · 06-16-2010 02:04 PM

Hi,

This is my first time ever posting anything, but I'm glad I found this site. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I have a younger sister (she's in the middle, I'm the oldest) who called me to have breakfast. She did this on a Wednesday and wanted to have breakfast the next Saturday. I told her I would love to at another date, because I had a prior engagement for brunch on that date (A 50th birthday tea for my Daughter-in-law's Aunt). I told her I'd get my calendar and give her a call to schedule. The next day, I did just that and gave her two Saturday choices that worked for me. I told her to let me know which worked for her and we'd go from there. She said she would but never returned the call with an answer. A week or so later, I called her back and again asked if she'd made a decision, to which she stated "Not yet, but I will". Now another week later, she called me to ask what the plans are for Father's Day (This is because my parents live with me and my family). While we were on the phone, I again asked her why she hasn't given me an answer regarding which Saturday (choices were 6/19 and 6/26/10). She then proceeded to tell me that she hasn't answered me because she thinks it's silly that I gave her two other options, instead of "dropping everything" to go to breakfast with your sister. To say the least, It hurt me very much. I told her she was being childish, that I loved her and had to go. Then I hung up.

Let me add....I have a teenaged daughter, a wonderful husband, a son and daughter-in-law who live in the apartment on my property and my parent's live with me. I work full-time and attend college full-time (Mon-Thur evenings, 3 hrs a night) working on my Bachelors in Accounting, to which I have another year to go.

I'm truly devastated and have no one who could begin to understand how I feel. Is there anyone else out there who does? If so, your advice please.

**sourpuss** · 06-16-2010 02:34 PM

You don't have anything to feel bad about. And you're right, she is being childish. If she can't understand why you need to schedule your social activities then she needs a good bop on the head. Has she never had responsibilities before? Jeesh.
My only advice would be to explain how busy you are and that's why you gave her two options. (you could just as easily said, no, I'm too busy) but you didn't, you're trying to fit time in with her. If she can't understand that, then you'll just have to take a deep breath and let her be mad.
But don't stress yourself out over it, you didn't do anything wrong and you shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone.

**jns** · 06-16-2010 09:03 PM

Sounds like your sister has a massive ego. Does it manifest itself in any other way?

**ocularone** · 06-16-2010 10:11 PM

I am confused as to why you are devastated over this? Siblings can be quite obnoxious sometimes and say dumb things to each other. Even hurtful things. Yes she is being childish..however it's no reason to despair. I kind of chuckled a little bit at the end of your story at the irony of you telling her she was being childish...then you proceeded to hang up on her.