Living with the inlaws - could you do it!??

**RosePetal** · 06-30-2010 06:39 AM

Hi All,

Just a quick question - how many of you could live with your inlaws or if any of you have - what are your experiences? Was there enough privacy? Did you get on well with them? Was it a good/bad expereince and also how long did you live with them?/

Thanks!

**Olympia** · 06-30-2010 08:16 AM

My situation may differ from yours, and hope, that is the case...

My boys and i had to stay with mother in law for a summer. Hubby was waiting to hear about a job. We were there on and off, so as not to create too much stress. The off times, we were with my mom and S.dad. I was not good enough for her boy, early on, and it became worse while staying with her. She was/is a very angry, manipulative, anti-social person. I am not those things. I tried to maintain a comfortable atmosphere, but it was a disaster. It has not changed after 25 years of marriage to her son. I know welcoming a daughter in law with the g. kids into the home takes adjustments. I tried to make the visit the least stressful... helping out in any way i could. But realized she was/is not a happy person, it didn't matter what was done or not done.

In some situations i know of, it has worked out well. I wish you the best and hope yours is one of these...

**pretzel** · 06-30-2010 08:18 AM

Did it,

End of discussion........................................ ................

**LanaBear** · 06-30-2010 10:27 AM

I love my in laws and we get along great, but I could never ever live with them. After about 5-6 days of visiting, I'm read to leave. We let my brother in law live with us for about a year and that cured me of ever even contemplating living with family again.

**RosePetal** · 06-30-2010 12:05 PM

my other half is like the biggest mummy's boy in the entire world and he wants to stay with his parents if we were to get married. i was ok with it for a few months but forever is just too much for me. however, i must accept this if i want to spend the rest of my life with him.

I have met the worst men in the entire world - i finally meet a nice caring sweet guy so now i need to weigh it out.

**sourpuss** · 06-30-2010 12:53 PM

Why does he want to live with his parents after he's married? That's not normal. Why not just live in the same town and visit as often as he'd like. I'd think long and hard about whether or not you're willing to do it.

**RosePetal** · 06-30-2010 01:09 PM

His mum and dad are seperated so he doesnt want to leave his mum alone as she is not too well - not that she will be all alone as the other brother is there and the sister visits a lot.

im thinking i want my own house after a year or so ask him if we can but thats a risk. but then i dont think ill ever find a man like him - im jus confused.

**PJhavinfunagain** · 06-30-2010 03:22 PM

No way in heck could I live with any of my inlaws! Well... I could handle one SIL and BIL but not for long...

**ItsASecret** · 06-30-2010 03:50 PM

I never could. I am not a family oriented person to begin with so having to live together with more people without any real privacy or a place to call your own home would be a big no no for me.

**RosePetal** · 07-01-2010 05:24 AM

what if you found he man of your dreams - mr prince charming - and you knew you couldnt get better and the only way you could be with him is to stay with his parents?