Child maintance to my unborn child and when he/she is born

**pule_p** · 07-19-2010 08:30 AM

Good day kindly advive.

I have separated with my boyfriend whom i think is not interested in the well being of his unborn, i need you guys and ladies to advice me how do i go about making sure he pays for my Doctors Gynaecologist visit for as long as i'm carrying the child and after he/she is born, Yes i'm beggining to accept that he might not be there to support me but i me emotional but would certainly need to make sure he take responsibility towards maintaining the child through out.

or rather we go 50/50 for the payment

**KMonte85** · 07-19-2010 08:38 AM

did you have a paternity test done? I don't believe he can be held for any of the financial responsibility unless he has been proven the father, so do that first to establish the child is his. Then, if he is willing, you make an agreement with him that he will help you pay for your medical expenses involved in child bearing/birth. If he's not so willing to shell out the money, then you take him to court and get the payment court-ordered.

That's the best I can think of... maybe someone else has something more to contribute, but I really don't see how you can make him pay for anything until you have established his paternity.

**LanaBear** · 07-19-2010 10:16 AM

I agree with KM... I don't think legally, until he has been proven the father of the child via a paternity test, you can't hold him accountable for any financial responsibility. I don't think he would be forced to pay for them anyways, maybe 50/50... But I'd definitely think it would be unfair to him to be solely financially responsible for Dr's visits. After all, it takes two to tango.

**pule_p** · 07-20-2010 12:36 AM

Originally Posted by LanaBear

I agree with KM... I don't think legally, until he has been proven the father of the child via a paternity test, you can't hold him accountable for any financial responsibility. I don't think he would be forced to pay for them anyways, maybe 50/50... But I'd definitely think it would be unfair to him to be solely financially responsible for Dr's visits. After all, it takes two to tango.

Good day all thank you for the feedback, i have spoken to my lawyer she said it is highly possible for him to pay but he will have to pay 50%of the charges and i pay as well, i can afford to pay for the Dr Fees and Private hospitalisation but like you said Lana Bear it takes 2 to Tango and he need to be responsible for that.