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Perhaps the best and safest option is to distance yourself from her as you have said. Maybe she will realise the hurt she is causing you and begin to change her ways. I really hope so.
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Does she have any friends? Are they people you could talk to? Perhaps they could offer some insight.
Any aunts or uncles who can be a kind of liaison? Don't assume that no one sees what she does, they may just be waiting for you ask.
You sound like a very level headed, together young lady. You are right that you can't let her stuff mess you up. Consider that at some level, at some time, she must have done something right, to help you be who you are today. So have gratitude for that and hold her in your heart as a very wounded person. You can have love for her, you can have compassion, but you don't have to let her stuff into your space. There is a wonderful book I think you might find a good read; Yesterday I Cried by Iyanla VanZant. She is an amazing woman, who grew up very abused but has accomplished things most of only wish we could.
Your mother needs help but unless her behavior goes completely over the top, which could put you in danger, you can't force it. Do what you can to get out from her roof and space. I think Little had an excellent suggestion in looking into the dorms. She has shared dealing with some tough family stuff and has built her own life.
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