Thread: My brother:lazy, easily irriatated, unmotivated, a loner- thinks of suicide sometimes

I only have one older brother and he's not much older than a year. He's 19 and in community college, going on to his second year. He hated his high school and had many difficult problems, not with teachers but with friends, student peers. He skipped about 6 months of school and had to take night classes to get back the credits. He had difficult middle school years, he get made fun of but they were jokes with no bad intention and he was sensitive.

There is so much to say but I'm gonna make it brief. There are a lot of problems in my household, just emotionally. My brother is very lazy and there are many times we get into arguments about that. I always tell him to have motivation and try something new even if he doesn't like the idea. He rarely or never try anything. I ask him to do something this summer, go volunteer in the hospital or find an internship with his interest. He doesn't want to. I told him that his habit would not get him anywhere in life and he admits that he will be looking forward to the future of homeless and what so.

He's has no friends, or at least I think he doesn't. He doesn't talk to people on the phone or keep track of them. I know because we live in the same room. All he ever does is go online, play games (gets irritated if he loses and swears outloud). I told him that to get anywhere you'll need good friends and they give good encouragements and motivation. Also to network for oppurtunities, such as jobs or internship. He hates social gathering and he said "there is nothing to talk about".

His attitude is hard to like or deal with. Our cousins are REALLY close with us but they can't stand his guts. He swears and curses and makes EVERYTHING very negative. He has a very sarcastic mouth and very anti-optimistic.

THIS WHOLE SUMMER, he stayed home and rarely went out. He went out to buy food or doctor's appt but that's less than an hour out side. He hates public places and people. I told him that people aren't going to "bite his head off" and he hates people passing judgments and what not. He wastes so much time on the computer.

He say he'll do things but he doesn't. In an agruement he knows he's an hypocrite. We argue so much, just verbally sometimes physical but those are the worst fights (no one broke an arm, prob just scratches).

When we have "conversation", the serious ones, he would break down. He doesn't know what he want and its hard for him to change. He prefers to be stagnant in his life, the easy road (hence free money from gov( unused tuition Pell Grants) and community college). He has no high expectation (these are from the arguements).

It's really frustrating. I get so stress out and my parents aren't much help. We're raised from chinese immigrants in america(We're born New Yorkers). Our culture doesn't seem to deal with much the mental side of things. My mom would yell at him to do something, how lazy he is and useless. He gets irritated a lot and swear at her. He doesn't hate her and love her. My dad is stress out too and he works so hard and my brother is not helpin much around the house.

There are so many conversation and argument I had with him and its so frequent. I need help and I don't know what to do or say. I just want him to try new things, meet new people and be NICE/OPTIMISTIC.