How to tell my family that I have no desire to see them?
If you have read some of my other posts, you'll know that I have an extremely estranged relationship.
They have told lies and rumors about me which has caused me to lose several relationships (not romantic ones)
I am flying to Arizona to visit some close friends...some of which are friends with my parents but have kept neutral and not taking sides. I want to see everyone except my parents/family.
Is it ok not to tell them I'm coming? Or to tell them I am coming but prefer not to see them?
They have done nothing but cause me bitterness and sadness and I am finally at the point where I'm emotionally well without their support.
They are super religious and don't support anything I'm doing (the guy I'm dating, going to college, not being active in a church, etc...) We would have absolutely nothing to talk about without it being forced or fake.
I have no desire to see mey parents or my siblings (except for my younger brother who has kept very close to me)
However, I am scared of the I'll get for not seeing them. The from my parents, siblings, and any of their family/friends who have taken sides.
Any suggestions???
"Look both ways before you cross the street"
Has your younger brother given you any feedback about how your parents feel if you were to come for a visit? Maybe him hinting that "It's been a while since sis has been back, would be nice to see her?" type of question could give you a better feel for the situation.
Maybe they've tempered their feelings toward your life and just haven't been able to communicate it to you?
There will always be boundries, but making love is so different, than having sex, let's face it. CW
Possibly you could visit them on your way back to the airport, keeping the time very short. If they don't want to see you, so be it. You tried. Don't give them the option of causing you not to have enough time to spend with your friends.
Its your life and you need to do what your heart tells you to. Life is short to hold grudges BUT sometimes in some situations if its not healthy for you then skip it. Good luck with your decision.
Don't know if this will help you or not............ Things you CAN'T recover in life 1) the STONE after it's thrown, 2) the WORD after it's said, 3) the OCCASION after it's missed, and 4) the TIME after it's gone
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