Surviving the loss of loved ones - my Angelic Nephew

**Joy** · 09-12-2010 10:24 AM

Monday was the labour day Holiday it was a beautiful day full of promise - by 9:30 that night it had turned into anightmare. Our nephew who had moved an hour away from home just 2 weeks ago had been to visit with his family. His mom did his laundry, His grammie fed him and made sure he had lots to eat in his new apartment. at 8pm we all started to worry we hadn't heard from him and by 9:30 we found out he had been in an accident. We thought he was in the hospital an hour away - that was his passenger - our lil angel had died at the scene of the accident.

The accident acutally happened at 4:50 but because he had no identification on him the police didn't even know who to contact. They were searching for us it was 10:00pm before they found us and delivered the news to my SIL.

It still doesn't feel real he was only 19 and his life was just turning around in the last few months. He has faced and over came so many hardships on a personal level this year. I was so proud of him. It feels like we were robbed and that he was robbed tol

The police say he was texting- the boy that was traveling with him says he doesn't think so. That lil boy survied by the grace of god and my heart goes out to him. He has a long road to recover mentally, physically, and emotionally.

There is nothing that will bring him back - Warn you kids and you yourself not to be distracted while driving - its not worth it.

Love the people life has given you xoxo

**WildChild** · 09-12-2010 12:49 PM

Joy, I'm so sorry. I know you will all miss him terribly but you know that he is in a place of light and love. The pain is in not having him here with all of you.

So often we will never know how an accident happened. All we can do is educate ourselves and those we love to stay aware, focused and to drive defensively.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-12-2010 04:35 PM

My sweet, I am so sorry to hear of this..

A journey in life, how blessed that he had turned his whole life around, he also would have been proud..

Stay strong. We're here as you know...

**p3375** · 09-12-2010 05:57 PM

Joy - not much else I can say but that I am sorry for you and all who loved your nephew.
Pat

**tesoro** · 09-12-2010 08:56 PM

Very saddened by your loss. Your nephew was too young and full of promise... He will always be with you and your family. Sharing his story, when you are ready, will help save the lives of many other teens. There is some comfort in knowing that.

**Joy** · 09-13-2010 07:16 AM

Thank you - and I know he is in a better place - we have been getting signs since the day of the services. He had the best friends ever - Weds at John's wake they started putting together a benefit dance ( john was in his own band) They wanna help raise money n awareness. John was blessed with great friends and they really helped all of us last week - with great stories and lots of love.

ty xo

**Beautiful Disaster** · 09-15-2010 07:05 AM

Very sorry.......

I hope that this heartbreak for you all can potentially save heartbreak for some others who may take heed and be more cautious when they're driving, whether it be texting, talking, changing radio station, etc. I know it's got to be excruciating on your family. Learning to cope with a loss is difficult, it's a feeling that is so surreal that it's almost indescribable. The "signs" you speak of........aren't they amazing?

Hang in there. Time won't ever completely heal the wound.....but it will certainly make it much better.

**Thomas Hepburn** · 09-15-2010 11:39 AM

Absolutely gutted for you Joy. What you can do is celebrate everything that was good about him.

If you are up to it, and feel like doing so, you could visit your local Spiritualist Church. They will be able to help you accept that his death was not in vain. Be convinced that you will meet up with him again, and that it's only a matter of time. Godbless xxx

**Joy** · 09-16-2010 07:41 PM

The signs are wonderful - they put your mind at ease. At the benefit concert his friends put together they raised 1800 for his mom for his headstone - which was beautiful.

We heal everyday together - we are all at different stages of healing. I'm doing good cause I believe he is in a better place.

thank you all for you love and support

**Joy** · 09-22-2010 08:54 PM

Ya its been a couple of weeks and things aren't going so good with the family. Some are doing ok, others are going on self destruct mode and taking others down with them. Why does death do this to the ones that are left behind. It hurts but why must we self destruct in order to get over it.