short version, Dad raised son by himself for 7 years with no help, met me, we blended out families.so 5 years later: I have an 18yr old boy, 16 yr old girl, and my bonus (his son) is 13. With my 2, anytime problems came up, I listened and was very grateful for his advise as he was more objective than me. However, with the 13 yo, he picks and chooses what parts of parenting I'm allowed to have a say in. In the past year, we have had major problems with his son and he's not a good disciplinarian. So we sat down and agreed that he would have no privelages for a week. on day 2, he caved and said it was ok for him to play with his leggos'. The kid is failing catholic school due to laziness. He's lying and stealing. Very frustrating for me because, to me, he is my kid too, but Dad caves in as soon as he starts whining about being bored. Doesn't think he should have to do any housework or yardwork. I tried to explain we were raising an adult, that's what the end result is, not a kid. Frustrated beyond belief. Dad doesn't see where he's done anything wrong or that he owes me an apology. Obviously there's other respect issues. any input invited!