Thread: Faince's SIL What to do Please help

Ok so it starts like this . I am 15 years older then my Current SIL to be . I was recently engaged to my faince since Feb of this year Her knowing this she announced she was engaged to his brother 3 days prior to us telling everyone about us. So we let it go . Not only did this annoy us but hurt us deeply since his brother was deployed and was not even here to be able for the family to congrad him. So then we were gonna announce us a few months later figured give them some time but then she announced she was getting married in Sept. So again we put off us . We finally announced we were engaged in October Which again was fine with us 2 days later she announced she was trying ot conceive BTW im 35 y/o so that tell you how old she is . At our engagedment party she introuduced all her bridesmaids over again like no one did not know who they were already. But not by name by this was my bridesmaid such and such ... Really ????? Now she wants to see my ring first i never wanted a diamond i wanted a cubic and she went on FB and announced that my fiance was a cheap and did not really love me or he would have gotten me a real diamond . So I messaged her askeing her what her problem was she then proceeded to ask me about my ring i told her it was 1ct she then tells me she wants to make sure my faince does not have better taste then her husband and hers was 2 cts. so i guess he loves me more... Now we are trying to replan our wedding because i thought i was being nice and showed she how easy it was if she uses certian sites like my wedding and wedding channel it was a great planning tool and even went as far as showing her all our ideas and what we bought . You guessed it she took all my ideas the place we were getting married the dress enough to i asked if if she would like my father to give her away and my faince to marry cause she took all my other ideas for my wedding she made the whole family dislike me then told my mother in law that i was starting problems. She consitatnally tries to play up the oh im so innoccent card and everyone is against me " I guess that comes with age " everything we do is critized and rituculed . I am tired of playing nice with her and i am tired of being told im older she is just young it will end how much should i have to deal with . Oh let me not forget to tell you how far she has really gone. we had a mistake and got pregnant Birthcontrol failed . But ended up having a miscarriage " Better for the time" she came over to play nice but told me how god works in such funny ways sometime *Laughing* and how we should not feel as if we need to try again . before she has one .

I am really tired of her having this competition with me its like a race but i dont wanna run i keep telling her to live her life and stay out of our bussiness but thats not enough . My final straw was when she told me she will be home for the holidays and will teach me how to be a good house wife. OK let me explain I have lived with my faince for 6 years she has only been with her husband for 1 year and lived with him for 2 months........ I need help ingoring her only starts more problem in the family . I have tried talking to her she played the i was innoccent card and how i dont want to be part of this family. Sorry it was so long this is the jist of things