sister-in-law & birthday issue
Ok...my son recently turned two and my husband and I had the party at my parents house, because my house is not big enough. My in-laws, especially my one sister-in-law, complained that it was way to crowed at my parents house. I invited only 3 friends outside of our immediate family. She suggested that I should have separate parties. I also caught her giving our 3-year-old nephew a gift at my son's party. I have a problem with this, because I believe that is going to teach my 3-year-old nephew to expect gifts every time he goes to a party. This is not my sister-in-law's first time doing this and when my nephew had his party, she didn't get my son anything. I am wrong for getting upset over this and telling her how I felt?
Side note: I also mention that I wished her husband, child and stepchildren where there. She took that as I was angry that they couldn't be there. I understand that there was issues that came up. I was upset, but not mad. I made that clear to hear.
Sounds like she was a bit of a debbie downer at your son's party, but I wouldn't be burning down any bridges just because she made a few crabby comments. And if she chooses to give her son gifts at your son's party, that is her perogitive - not something you should stress over or tell her to stop. It may not be how you would parent, but your nephew isn't yours to parent.
Again, she didn't seem to really handle herself with class at your party, wasn't a grateful guest, but I wouldn't hold a grudge. Its not like she ruined the party, and its not like your son's feelings were hurt over her actions, because lets face it, at 2 all he cares is that he gets to stick his face in the cake and rip open some wrapping paper. If these things were accomplished, then your son's party was a success, with or without SIL's less than graceful manners.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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