trouble with new born

**ltsang** · 12-14-2010 08:00 AM

Hi. I have a new born in the house. My step mom and my family has always put the baby to sleep in there arms and rock him in a rocking chair. Then he got used to it. Then after we put the baby to sleep in his on bed he doesn't like it. He cries every 5 minutes or so. Either my wife and I can't put the baby to sleep at night. Not without rocking him first. Right now my wife has a bad attitude that she can't sleep. I on the other hand sleep in my closet. Because my closet is really big. Almost enough to put a bed in it. When I see her she always angry. Please any tips on helping us without holding the baby to sleep. I also worked part time. Helping my dad out in the restaurant.

When I sleep in the closet I put a couple of blanks on the floor to make it soft. But when I woke up my back hurts like .

**WildChild** · 12-14-2010 08:08 AM

I don't understand why you are sleeping in the closet.
Rocking is a very traditional way to get a baby to sleep. Is he warm enough when layed down? In the womb there is closeness and the sound of the mother's heartbeat and breathing, babies find that very comforting.

**auntie_awesome** · 12-14-2010 11:05 AM

Yeah, babies cry and it may take some weening from the rocking before your new baby is truly comfortable being put directly into a bed. If he/she is a new born, it makes sense that they would want the rocking. It often takes awhile to get a baby onto a schedule that doesn't make them scream.

But it sounds like there are more serious issues than a child who cries when put down for a nap. Why are you sleeping in the closet? Where your wife sleeping? Do you live with your stepmom? How old are you? Why is your wife angry all of the time?

I'm trying to get more information because it sounds like there are larger issues here.

**jns** · 12-14-2010 07:24 PM

Probably you should help out more. Your wife is probably angry because she isn't getting enough sleep and you seem to be getting enough. If you have a comfortable rocking chair, you could go to sleep in it or rather doze off while rocking the baby to sleep. Allow your wife to get some sleep by taking care of the baby some of the time.

**Hopeless Dork** · 12-14-2010 09:53 PM

Uh... if i were her I would be angry too. At you, not the baby :P She didn't make that baby all by herself, why should you get to sleep in the closet like it doesn't exsist when you want to get rest? Who is left to be the parent? What if she decided she was going to go sleep in another closet or move into your closet with you? Is this your first babies? Babies cry, especially newborns.. and needing to be rocked to sleep comes with the territory, sure you can eventually teach a child to sooth themselves to sleep... but a new born? They are fresh out of the most comfortable place in the world... they need extra comforting to transition to the world.

Why don't you and her just simply take turns. Let her sleep for several hours while you tend to the baby... and then she will let you sleep while she tends to the baby. Its a 2 person job or she may as well be a single mom. It will get better and easier with time but right now she needs your help.

**ltsang** · 12-15-2010 07:59 AM

lol nooooo. I was sleeping in the closet, because I have to work these days. And if I don't get enough sleep I would have problems for myself. My step mom and my wife take care of the baby at night while I work in the morning. Then when I come home from work I take care of my baby while my wife sleeps during the day. My wife sleeps on the bed. I'm 25 years old and my wife is 24. This is our first baby so it is very difficult for us.