Homosexuality the home wreaker?

**carmen_rose** · 01-04-2011 11:34 PM

I am from a family with excellent morals and values, where education and self betterment is important. I have two older siblings, and both parents.
Through my teen years I suppose I kept my parents on their toes- with the 'typical' teen nonsense!
However me bringing home a girlfriend must have been their biggest shock.

I met my now ex in 2007 whilst completing my last year of school, and the relationship ended in July 2010. In that time and still now i do wonder on the effects it had on my mother, father and sisters individually and as a family?

I was initially scolded and it was hoped that my new sexuality would be a phase- much to their disappointment.

My family and I have grown closer since the breakup and my sexuality is often commented on in a joking manor. I now have a new girlfriend which I am taking slow and will only introduce to the family after some time- NOT AN EASY TASK.

My question is this- besides the disappointment how do mothers, fathers, siblings and other family members feel in this situation where their child/ sister becomes a Homosexual?

**WildChild** · 01-04-2011 11:41 PM

This really depends on the family and their beiliefs. Some are shocked and never accept it. Others accept it in time, while for still others, as long as their child is happy it's fine.

I have dear freinds who dealt with learning that their daughter is a lesbian. They has suspected that she prefered girls but had some adjusting to do when she told them. Really this can be just as any parent can have a little trouble accepting that their child is growing up and is a truly sexual being. My friend's biggest upset? She had always imagined helping plan her daughter's wedding. I pointed that could still happen, it would just be two brides.

**carmen_rose** · 01-05-2011 04:29 AM

Thanks- its great to hear!
i suppose- with the wedding parents want the 'natural' order for their children, the hubby then the kids!
but we have alt ways its just not, conventional!

Thanks !

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-05-2011 04:32 AM

Carmen, it takes time, you know old school?

You are whom you are and you have a right to live your life the way you want.

Blood is thicker than water, accept their thoughts live your life, at some point they will see it is who you are...

With age comes acceptance.

Enjoy your life...

CW

**WildChild** · 01-05-2011 07:24 AM

The important thing is that you are a loving woman who finds a loving, caring relationship. The world needs all the loving, happy people it can get.

**rcoreyus** · 01-05-2011 10:07 AM

I have never understood why homosexuality bothers people. The only possibly explanation is parents who want grandchildren, but lesbian / gay couples can adopt, and lots of straight couples choose not to have children, or are unable to have them.

I think that if you have found someone who makes you happy and who you love, your family should be very happy as well.

To answer your question, I am happy if any family member finds love, doesn't matter at all what their gender is.

**Thomas Hepburn** · 02-17-2011 12:06 PM

People behave differently. Your parents and siblings might just love you conditionally. By that, I mean they'll only really love you if you conform to their ideas etc. You say you come from a family with high morals ? The world is littered with people who had high morals. Where in their idea of life is happiness ? Your happiness? I am not homosexual, never could be (like women too much) but if my son or daughter were, then I would love them just as much. Most of all for my children is I want them to be happy in their lives. Luckily for me they are pretty good kids. Don't feel awkward about your sexuality. You cannot help loving women. Love your partner and be a good person to others and that is all that can be asked of you. x