Lost Happiness!!

**brianna...** · 01-06-2011 02:42 PM

I have no family living near me, i first moved to FL 10 years ago to live with my dad and step mom in the begining everthing was going great my dad and i got along due to me being daddys little girl, well everthing changed when i turned 15 the step mom started treating me like a slave doing everthing around the house while her son didnt have to do anything. after awhile i started losing closeness with my dad because of her like if she was mad at me she would make sure he was too she had once told me that ( you will not get in the way of me and your father) she also blamed me for them argueing, well once i turned 18 i finally stood up for myself, i ended up moving out and not talking to her for while but i felt enough was enough so i apologized even though i wasnt in the wrong, after that things were good but shortly after she started again treating me like i didnt matter so i yelled at her and said things i never said before but she had it coming to her and my dad took her side and abandoned me i no longer hear from him or anything i tried calling him and messaging him but he ignores me! i feel so alone sometimes not having my own dad around and now my real mom is in the hospital for over month i dont know what to do, i cry all the time and so scared if anyone knows how i feel and knows how to deal with so much pain please give advice!!

**jns** · 01-06-2011 11:49 PM

It sounds like your stepmother was jealous of you. Unfortunately, this is too common.

Get busy improving your life by getting a good education. Visit your mom if you haven't done so already.

**BasketCase** · 01-07-2011 12:11 AM

JNS had hit the nail on the head. To me it doesn't sound like a good time to get thngs in order with you dad. For now be their for your mother and yourself and perhaps in time you will be more ready to settle things with your dad.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-07-2011 12:37 AM

I don't know, maybe she was old-fashioned....

A 15 year old needs to learn life...She needs to know how to clean and cook, all be it, sucked in for being a girl

Boys are always, left to do not much although in this day and age, they should know how to cook at least

I think that is what happened, after all your talking 10 years of "no" jealousy....at all....

I think she stated, there was no disapline or learning experiences and advised him to butt out, or it won't occur as your Daddy's girl and it did....I bet, he hated it.

But, the swearing, cursing, putting her down, I can imagine what you said

Off course, it is his wife...He figures you'll work it out as you get older and at that point, a relationship can be re-developed.

Why is your Mum in hospital?

I think your missing love and have for a few years...In that, anger can form.

CW

**brianna...** · 01-08-2011 11:52 AM

THANK YOU, but no she wasnt teaching disipline because i was a really good kid i had wonderful grades and already knew how to cook and clean, she picked favorites and she always wanted control even my dad seen it but kept quiet, and yeah lol i said something like that, but anyway JNS i am going to washington in FEB to visit her i havent seen her in 10 years. but my mom is in hospital for several things but mstly drugs has taken over her life so im going to see her before its to late.

**jns** · 01-08-2011 12:55 PM

Originally Posted by brianna...

... but anyway JNS i am going to washington in FEB to visit her i havent seen her in 10 years. but my mom is in hospital for several things but mstly drugs has taken over her life so im going to see her before its to late.

Good for you! Reconnecting is always good. I used to travel across the country to visit my parents for a week every three years, but for the last 5 years or so I go for a few days every year just to reconnect. It costs more and is more of a hassle, but the reconnecting is well worth it.