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  1. 01-30-2011 06:03 PM #1
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    Unhappy Family Woes:

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    Hi! I suppose my issues are due to my family going thru a hard time with finding new jobs etc. I am working
    all of the time however some others are actively looking for work now. The problem is that Im frusterated
    with the fact that everyone is home ALL of the time. All day and when I get home from work, nothing is done
    at home . I have to work another 2 hours to clean up everyone elses mess. I have a daughter who is over
    bearing and likes to control everyone and everything. I know I need to lose weight and be better but it does
    not help when she rides your butt all of the time about things. Also, my father is dying from Cancer and every day is closer to the end, and Im upset about that as well. Needless to say she still rides my butt ALL of the time
    about meals, being healthy blaming me for everyone being fat. Im not the one who puts the food in the other
    peoples mouths. They choose how much and what they eat not me. I just get fed up and Im not nice then. I cant help it. I need people to leave me alone right now. I need to deal with things myself. I dont mean to be snappy
    and Im trying to be nicer. It is SO difficult. What is the point of having a day off from work to be home. I dont
    want to be home with them anyways. At least Im not harrassed at work. They like me there!! Any ideas???
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  2. 01-30-2011 09:12 PM #2
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    Quit feeding everyone. Start eating near work and quit bringing home food to make meals with. See how long it will be for the people there to agree that whatever you make is fine. Stay out of touch at a friend's house if they will protest too much so you cannot sleep. Don't answer your phone. The only people you have to take care of are any underaged children that you are the guardian of. Everyone else has to fend for themselves if they want to be so whiny. This will give you time to think about your father without distractions.

    When they decide they really want you back, make sure they agree to clean everything and not whine about the food. And give you peace and quiet to help deal with your father's situation.
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    How old is your daughter? If she is over 18, it is your home and it's shape up or ship out. Try a list of rules or chores and explain since you are the only one working that means the others have to help in order to have access to your money, ie...food, shopping, electricity and so on.

    That sounds awful.

    As for the food, if they don't like it...then stop cooking for them. Let them handle their own meals if they are able to and simply fix your own food.

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  4. 01-30-2011 11:09 PM #4
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    Maybe your daughter should take control of the grocery shopping and cooking. That way, less for you to do and she gets to control something and make healthy meals. Win-win situation.
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