my daughters have fell out with me

**anniew** · 03-08-2011 05:06 AM

hi i am new here, and need advice,, I have 3 daughters, and over the past couple of years there have been a couple of bad arguments, 2 daughters dont speak to the youngest daughter,, and because i speak to her, the other 2 have fallen out with me, and there has been some really bad things said,, I have apologised to them , but they have just cut me off,, I have tried my hardest to be a good mother, (there father left us 20 years ago) i am at a really low ebb and hate this bad feeling, but what else can i do?

**irish angel** · 03-08-2011 07:48 AM

I am sorry to hear this. What started the fights in the first place? And how old are your daughters?

**anniew** · 03-10-2011 03:02 PM

it was something or nothing,,, all because me and the youngest daughter get on they dont like it and dont speak to either of us,, as they donk get on with the youngest, they are,, 47,, 44 and 33,,, but i am picking my self up, i have a good husband and 2 good grandsons and a granddaughter,,they know where i am , so it is there loss,,, thanks for your reply,, as i said i have apologised to them,, but they dont think they have any faults in this,,,xxx

**WildChild** · 03-10-2011 04:12 PM

It's hard to offer any good suggestions without knowing why they are so angry with you and with their younger sister. Is it jealously over something? Why are they both so set against you? What started this?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-11-2011 01:51 PM

You've mentioned you get along with the youngest, and that your then husband left 20 years ago. The oldest ones would have been 27,24 able to cope, old enough whilst the youngest only 13... Still at home, needy and you probably needing her as well, a broken marriage still causes hopelesness, lonliness and I imagine she became your focus and hense, bond...

I also imagine you probably did more for her, as she was only a young girl growing into a teenager, and maybe, maybe, your two older ones ended up feeling left out, I say this because you say they don't like her, you say, you get on really well with your youngest, stands to reason don't you think?

Sorry sometimes doesn't cut it ...when someone really wants to know they are and always were loved just as much only you turned to the youngest as she was still a child, your security blanket in your own pain and yes, you forgot to show it as you should have ...

CW