To make a long story short(I'll go into detail if you have any questions) my mom has never liked my Husband(1 year married, we dated 4-5yrs) didn't come to the wedding-and as of this last easter she wrote me a several HATEFUL emails disowning me saying she was no longer my mom and that she had fulfilled her duty-to consider her dead and buried-never call or come see her ever again-said I was selfish-very hurtful things in the emails-well I never said one word back to them-i wasn't bringing my self to her level-well now as of today she writes me a "Im sorry" email-she doesnt say that she didnt mean what she said but that she's sorry and wants to be friends and will just keep her advice to her self-and wants us to come to a cook out mid-june, so basically wants me to forget all she said-well I forgive her because Im supposed to-and I pray for her-but I dont know what to do ? should i just say okay thanks for the appology and go to the cook out and act like nothing ever happend? or just accept the appology but still stay my distance?! please just any advice would be great-and any questions to clear up anything just ask-theres a lot in between that i've left out-but that's the jist of it!
thank in advance!
God bless!

How does your husband feel about it? Your husband is your family now and if the problems with your mother are causing problems with your husband you may be better off without her.

when we marry we are to leave our parents and start a new life and forsake all others . If your mom can't accept your husband, she can't accept you. You have become one and I would talk to your hubby to see what he has to say and lay down the law to mommy dearest. Tell her if I let you back in and you disrespect my husband and myself again, you're cut off for good and i'll never forgive you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

He's hurt of course-and yeah deff. he is more important-and he just wants me to be happy-he doesnt want me to forgive her and her do it again to me-I will not let her come between us though-thank you for that

EXACTLY! I have told her that-and I just let her know that I was giving her one last chance-and if I get hurt again or if she says one more thing about him or our relationship that is the last straw-and I mean it! Thank you for the encouragement and letting me know im not the only one who sees it that way-it's hard when it's your mother-but when other ppl see it that way too-it helps! thanks again! God Bless!

From Mom: I donot hate Justin! Just because i didnt want him for your HUSBAND chancee does not mean I hate him-----I have nothing against him-I dont have any more opinions----I never want to see you HURT maybe is the fear i feel from all ive heard okay--------but i understand your feelings,so just know im here and if you want to see me,id love to see you and if you want to talk to me I want to talk to you---I will never ever HURT or say Hurtful things to YOU Ever again about NOTHING!IM sorry! I Love YOU! well thanks for listening and us trying to clear some of the air--ttyl and you have a great evening too-----I miss you!Mommy

From Mom:if we could just call it as it WAS and start over and I CAN PROMISE YOU THIS>>>I WILL NEVER EVER BE NEGATIVE AGAIN ABOUT ANYTHING----I AM VERY VERY PROUD OF YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS!

I hope she means it!?

This sounds terrible, but I would suggest you
keep your mother two arm's length away. Be
polite, but terse.

I don't know what movie she saw last night,
or what story someone told her why she
had a 'change' of heart.

I don't know, but I know that no one would
be as hateful as she was and then 'change'
so quickly.

Be very careful, you don't want her to make
a situation...me or him...which might be right
up her sleeve.

Maybe she realizes her mistakes and wants to work things out with you and hubby. She deserves a chance, dont you think? unless you have given her lots of chances before and she didnt change at all. If you do give her a chance lay down the rules and keep an eye out on her. Dont let anyone come in between you and hubby! no matter who it is!