Thread: Daughter and step dad do not get along.

I too am in a similar situation. My second husband and I have been married for 7 years and together for 10. My daughter was 5 when we met. My second husband and I separated last August and are now talking about reconciling. My daughter is upset to say the least. A lot of hurt has gone on between my husband and I and my daughter saw me cry and cry time and again.
In the beginning of our relationship my husband drank a lot...and use to hurt me. Unfortunately, my daughter witness an incident that was not good. Since that time (8 yrs ago), my husband quit drinking, went through a program, we were in counseling for over a year and he has never hurt me again. Since he and I have been talking of reconciling it has come out from my daughter how much that incident affected her. I forgave my husband a long time ago, and she has not I have learned. I want to spend the rest of my life with my husband but this choice is hurting my daughter so much and I don't know what to do. I am working on scheduling her an appt with our therapist, my daughter has seen her once before and likes her. I dont know where her anger from this indecent is coming from as it was been so long ago and this is the first I am hearing of it sense then. My daughter has suffered a lot of loss.....her bio dad not being here, the loss of her grandmother last November....and now I think she feels she will loose me to my husband? I want to help her, I want to make her feel better but do I have to do this by sacrificing my own happiness? I feel horrible even asking this question.