My youngest sister broke her leg

**chaya** · 08-10-2011 07:04 PM

My youngest sister broke her leg

My youngest sister is the baby of the family, she is 14. We always treated her mean because she acted so strange. We wouldn't let her hang out with us because she would act up and embarrass us. About a year ago she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. She had an attack so sever they had to sedate her for almost a month. Now I realize it was the sickness that caused her behavior and I feel so bad about it.

My oldest sister and her boyfriend took my youngest sister on a hike to the top of the Haiku stairs. I've been up there once and you have to be in good shape to even make it. You climb almost 3000 feet up 4000 steps, some of them almost vertical up the cliffs. When I was up there we climbed above the clouds. They were starting the last ascent at over 2400 feet when she fell and broke her leg. They couldn't get a cell signal so sis's boyfriend had to climb half way down to call for help. They picked her up in a helicopter but it took over 2 hours to get there.

It is illegal to climb the stairs because you are trespassing but a lot of people do it anyway. They didn't tell my parents they were going or they wouldn't have let her go. I talked to my young sister on the phone, she begged me to come and see her. I would really like to go because I still feel so guilty for treating her bad when I lived at home. I don't see how I can go because it would cost so much and I am preparing to start school soon. I really want to go but I know I shouldn't. It is making me sick to think about it. My husband said it is up to me to decide.

**jns** · 08-10-2011 09:39 PM

Sorry to hear of your sister's mishap. I would go if there was any way possible. You do not have to go for long, just enough be there for your sister. It would be good for her to see that you care enough to come (not putting you down, this is from her view of things).

Too bad they don't open Ha'ikū Stairs to the public.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-10-2011 09:41 PM

Can you communicate with her via web cam? Or buy one that maybe a cheaper alternative.

Your sister's boyfriend? I thought that she liked your husband's friend?

**chaya** · 08-11-2011 04:22 PM

My big sister has a lot of boyfriends, I don't know if she will ever commit to just one.

We are leaving for Hawaii tomorrow. My husband has to return Tuesday Aug 16 but I might stay until Aug 22. My baby sister is really down, she is still in hospital. She's had 2 operations on her leg to put in pins and has a lot of pain. They might let her go home tomorrow.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 08-11-2011 05:02 PM

Well glad he is going with you..

So how many in your family, do they all live at home?

**chaya** · 08-11-2011 06:00 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

Well glad he is going with you..

So how many in your family, do they all live at home?

There are six, all live at home except me. I have 2 sisters and a brother, I'm the oldest.

**jns** · 08-11-2011 06:38 PM

Originally Posted by chaya

My big sister has a lot of boyfriends, I don't know if she will ever commit to just one.

We are leaving for Hawaii tomorrow. My husband has to return Tuesday Aug 16 but I might stay until Aug 22. My baby sister is really down, she is still in hospital. She's had 2 operations on her leg to put in pins and has a lot of pain. They might let her go home tomorrow.

Excellent on you and hubby going. Have fun and reconnect with your family. Good luck.

**Little** · 08-12-2011 08:29 AM

Sorry to hear about your sister! I bet she'll feel much better having you visit her, and that she'll appreciate your financial sacrifice.

Has your hubby had the opportunity to see where you grew up yet? If not, he'll probably enjoy that!

**jns** · 08-12-2011 06:00 PM

I am surprised to see you're on the forum now. Are you already in Hawaii?

**BabyGirl** · 08-12-2011 06:38 PM

I hope your little sister heals fast.

While there , I hope maybe you and your family can have a quiet talk with the sister that decided to take a 14 year old up those dangerous stairs and they are and can be very Dangerous even for seasoned Hikers.

That sister seems to be a quite irresponsible and not seeming mature enough to make many wise decisions. With her having " Many Boyfriends" and being promiscuous and now doing something which is Illegal and endangering her little sisters life and her own, in climbing the Stairway to Heaven , as it's called sometimes.

That sister needs some guidance before something tragic befalls her or someone else by her immaturity and "Wild " Behavior..

I do hope you enjoy your stay, even if it's for the Leg Injury that has brought you back to your family, if even for a short visit.

Also have a talk with your Youngest Sister and your Brothers , if younger than 18 and caution them about going places that their Parents do not know about, and may not approve of .

My two that live home with me, even though 24 & 21, always, leave a note or text me where they are going, unless it's to College or work or a Jaunt within a few miles of our home, Bank or store.
This is out of Courtesy and Respect so I don't worry and I do the same with them, so They don't worry ..

Have Fun, Enjoy !!