My daughter, the lap-dancer

**Seniora** · 10-01-2011 02:41 AM

Points well taken, Baby Girl. Sorry to hear about your son's problems. You are absolutely right about Dogs and unconditional love as I had never thought about it in those terms. I just followed the cliched expression about them. By "unconditional love" I mean supporting them no matter what. You often see parents of murderers or drug traffickers on TV saying they support their child absolutely. I cannot agree with this, nor can my husband. Of course, I love my daughter - it comes with the fact of being a Mother. But I won't accept her behaviour and I won't be there to bail her out when she's in debt or other troubles. She MUST learn through her own mistakes - too many parents shelter their children from reality and their own choices by helping them out. Neither my husband nor I are like this. We think there are consequences for our daughter and she must handle these alone. I'll tell her I love her - but I'm not good with those kinds of words - when the time is right. But I have withdrawn for the moment because I cannot handle the person she has become. I do not recognize her. And now I think we have exhausted this discussion. Thanks for the input, everyone.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-01-2011 02:59 AM

I will close the thread for you if you like, just let me know, I can tell from your last statement that this thread was more of venting and hurting I understand that.

There is a message I and BG have tried to give...

I understand that no words will work, because you have your beliefs, thoughts and respectfully that is who you are, you and your husband and that is fine, so there is no advice to give only wisdom...

Those whom don't show love through words, that "best friend, someone to turn to when you fall, fail" "the words of I am proud of you for you" instead of dreams of what is expected, hoped for, makes the person whom searches for it feel in-adequate, un-loved, from that person higher than them usually a parent, and feeling un-loved, well life is life, they will just live, do what they want there is no reason to be respectful...they are a failure and was along time ago.

Only the strong climb over that....

CW