Thread: psycho SIL-and the lease

Hello to All who read this,


~this time last year, i would have never believed that we are in the predicament we are in right now, never in a million years... if i was a betting woman, i would have lost big time.~



i am married, just shy of 3 years, to a wonderful WONDERFUL Man. He is my life. I also have a Son from a previous marriage, and he is 19 years old. My son is my world!

My husband (54 Y/o) and i(40 Y/o) met online, on a blogger site, in which we both managed our own blogs. we met at a meet and greet in Cleveland,OH. we hit it off!
with some dating and blogging and dating some more, we decided to tie the knot December 13th 2008.

While My husband and i were in our dating stage, he introduced me to his older (62 y/o) sister, And we hit it off also. Wow she was great! and so sweet and kind, and very giving- Emphasis on GIVING.

well my husband and i were living in an 2 bedroom apartment on the south side of Cleveland in the burbs after our marriage.
my SIL was living by herself in a one bedroom for 17 years, prior, in another Cleveland burb.

every weekend i would ask my husband what was she (we will call her 'lolo') doing for her weekend? i did not want her to sit alone in her apartment. so we included her in all of our weekend plans,we invited her here and there, and even took her on 'friend' outings, because i for one didn't want to see her sitting home alone.

so the first year and a half we were picking her up on weekends and taking her shopping, and outings and such.
while out and about, she would casually bring up that she occasionally overhears her downstairs neighbors fighting, and throwing things at each other, and that thunderstorms scare her in that apartment (you gotta know my SIL she has a phobia for everything)doctors, thunderstorms, driving, etc etc etc

ok...when we were first married, lolo gifted me her car, because i was in need of a car, and since she had a car that she was afraid to drive... she said i was doing her a favor saving her garage rent money... even though i offered her money for the car, she would not hear of it, she called it a wedding present.....mmmmmk.

so then out and about one weekend... lolo tells us that the downstairs couple that fights all the time, gunshots were fired in the apartment and that the guy shot his girlfriend, and that lolo wanted to get out of that apartment. also she added cars were crashing into the apartment, accidents on her front lawn of her apartments, she wanted out of there now!
well my husband and i talked it over, that since our lease was coming to term, and her lease was coming due a month earlier, that we would go in thirds on an apartment.... since we were all getting along just fine.

FAMOUS LAST WORDS!

move in day: Aug 1- and we are having to worry about two households. movers, boxes, cleaning... etc etc etc... well while we were trying to move lolo in to the apartment, we were kinda neglecting our own apartment, getting things ready for the movers that were coming the next morning. that night my husband and i were in our apartment trying/craming to get thing ready, lolo was watching us... (my husband has a heart history, totally fine though, two stents later) well we were trying to get some boxes into the front room, that when lolo went off on my husband, screamming at him saying that she was not going to watch him have a heart attack, and that if he moved one more thing, she was not paying to the agreed moving expenses that she agreed to- remember she is very giving- eeerrrr indian giving.then proceeded to employ my son, to drive her home to her apartment, not the new one... THE OLD ONE??? to sleep on the floor?

should have known right then to pull the plug on this deal. BUT WE DIDN'T. benefit of the doubt.

then everything is OK until January 2011- January 2, 2011 to be exact.
The 1st of January she decides to quit smoking in the apartment... so she is getting more and more irritated. so she gets up and goes into her room and starts to clean,she comes stomping out of her room, and says to me I need more light in my room.... i said ok... remember that lamp you gave me for the computer room <remember 'giving lady' i got it for her and she took it back to her room. then she came out and barked at my husband, i need my bed moved, cause i can't plug in the lamp. so he moved the bed out from the wall.
the next day, lolo gave me the fire i needed to clean our bedroom, so i decided i was going to re-arrange the bedroom, new year- new room. so i start cleaning and moving furniture, and i needed help propping up the mattress , cause it was in the way of progress. so my husband helps me prop up the matress on the side of the wall, so i can get stuff situated and in it's proper place. well when i get all done with the room, i come out to the living room, and that's when it happened. she jumped me yelling SHAME ON YOU YOU, SHOULD KNOW BETTER, YOU ARE A NURSE, HE HAS A HEART CONDITION. I was utterly Shocked? i was like did she really say that to me? i held my tongue and went back to our room and finished my job, and planted my self there for 1 week.... i was not going to approach her, because i was saving her~ from myself.

so then a week later, i think i can carry on a cool conversation with her without escelating, i approach her, i ask her what was all that about last week, she said that she had a problem with me, asking him to move furniture. i had enlightened her that about 24 hours earilier she asked him to move her bed? and i asked her point blank if anything were to happen to him, would she blame me? and as quickly as i asked the question, she quipped, yes i would!

lolo would always complain about headaches, backaches and such.( history of very, dangerous high blood pressure).. and i asked her when was the last time she had seen the doctor, she said 3 weeks ago. i said let me see your pill bottle, and then she got very irate with me saying that she was an adult, and that she didn't have to show me anything... you see i know that this is a lie,and i called her out on it. she has this phobia with doctors because of "the masks they wear"
that was the moment she decided to hate me, because i uncovered the truth about seeing the Dr. and her taking B/P meds. she had the whole family snowed.... SNOWED!

so i told her that since we went in thirds thinking we were all going to be healthy and carry this thing through, that i don't want to hear of my husband having a heart condition, if your not willing to take care of yourself, cause god knows that he does take care of himself, takes his meds as directed.
and since he can't do any strenous activity, welp then i guess we are going to be the only married couple that can't have sex? and he will have to quit his job in logistics, huh? i did not want her using that he has a heart condition to her benefit!

pretty much she was speachless......

then the cigarette burnholes started appearing in my decorative rug not one... but 16 of them?all 16 right where she sits with her laptop, to fry her brain with facebook games.
she tried blaming my non smoking son for???
so when we called her out on the burn holes, she demanded the car back or the money, so we sold the car right quick, and gave her the money. and everything was fine.

during this period, she was very generous, like insisting on paying for bus passes for me because she felt bad, and even offering to my husband to help pay for insurance because "we cart her around" in which i heard with my own ears also.

we fell for it again.....

we have been on semi speaking terms with lolo for a 2 months now, she says one thing, and then totally denies saying anything..... so we totally avoid her.... so that what we say is not twisted around and made in her favor. and no dementia is not an issue cause she works full time downtown as a legal secretary.... and reminds us all the time that she works for lawyers.. so this she portrays does not jive. i'm helpless, wait on me, when my tea jug is empty, you go get me more???... !!!

long story short... cause this will go on forever

present day: 2 more weeks until my husband and i move into our new apartment , she has been going thru our rooms when we are not here, yes we have photographs.

this past summer i got a ticket for no turn on red light, well i paid the ticket in the nick of time, but not without a letter coming from the county, well guess who got the mail that night... lolo...she looked at the letter, and proceed to go to her job the next day, and look up that letter, i never told her about the ticket, but she had all the info for me???

she has told, my husband and me that she does not trust us.... which i have been telling my husband since day one, she has trust issues, i just wish she would have led on to us before moving in together

cause now i have to float the boat over at the new place, while my husband pays for half the rent over at the old apartment... so it's like were are going to have to pay for all of this like we are single, even though we are married.

so tonight... lolo is MIA, she aint here, nowhere to be found, probally because we know that she has been going thru our room... we left cute lil notes in our room in drawers and in our bill basket "Having fun lolo?" and rent is coming due in the next couple of days... and my husband has his money in his hand and is ready to take his portion down to the office.

it's not like we are kicking her out of the place, we are giving her the option of staying out the lease, so no ones credit gets ruined... and she is throwing a fit about it..... you know what i say... don't look a gift horse in the mouth, a three br apartment for 480/mth? good luck finding an 1 bedroom for under 600 per.


believe you me, there is
ALOT more to this.... but i am getting carpal-ish typing this.

i guess what it boils down to is this..... have you ever seen the movie SAW?... Uh-Huh


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