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  1. 11-29-2011 02:30 AM #1
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    I have a facebook... and so do my sisters in law. I've been married almost 3 years and in those two years my husbands siblings and I haven't developed any kind of bond.

    That's why it's catching me off guard that suddenly one of my SIL is sending my siblings friend requests, of course it was my siblings who brought this to my attention. She's been to several of my family's get togethers and she's NEVER tried carrying a conversation with anybody. If anything, she's only sat off to the side drinking and acting like she's too good to be there.

    Whether they've accepted her request or not, I haven't asked, I haven't checked nor am I interested in the least. I really don't want to know. From the time I've known her, I can only conclude that she's being nosy. Sure I can put all that behind me knowing that my siblings manage their privacy very well on FB.

    Recently upon returning to FB I discovered she's been posting pictures of my baby almost daily. I don't like it and I don't know how to handle the situation. Besides announcing my marriage, the gender of my baby and the birth, I've been very private about my personal life. To top it off, she tags a bunch of random people on my baby's pictures. ???? ! I fear she's gonna document my baby's life and make it a public thing just like she has for her children.

    I don't know what to do about this and what ever I end up doing, there's going to have to be more people dragged into it because I don't even have her number nor talk to her. The only times we've had any kind of interaction is when we have to greet each other or when she actually does talk when my husband is around.

    Help anybody?!
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  2. 11-29-2011 12:09 PM #2
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    Is this your husbands brothers wife or your brothers wife?

    Is she on your friend list?

    Is she getting the pictures from her personal camera, your profile, your husband/brother or your family members profiles?

    Either way, I would set my settings to exclude her from obtaining them from your profile. I would also have your husband/brother talk to her about it.
    The privacy on Facebook overall, sucks. When you are tagged in a photo, everyone on your friend list can see that photo. Which is horrible when you think about the fact she is tagging random people. If each one of those people has 100+ "friends", four tags turns into 400 people with access to that photo. No one should be able

    How would I approach it?
    I would ask my husband/brother how he wants to deal with it, and tell them your concerns over the privacy and lack of it online. Tell him you don't find it acceptable, for your reasons, and ask him to respect it.
    I would also set my privacy settings so that she wasn't able to view new updated photos and post for her liking.
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  3. 11-29-2011 01:19 PM #3
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    Report the photos to facebook - nobody has the right to post photos of your children without your consent. Then talk to your husband about it (I assume she's your husband's sister because you weren't comfortable with her friending your siblings.) If he doesn't want to confront her about it, take it on yourself. You don't have to be rude or attack her choice of sharing her kids' photos on facebook - some people have a different view of privacy than others. Just tell her you want more privacy for your family and don't want your children's photos shared online. If you don't like facebook's privacy policy or controls, tell her that too.

    And if she doesn't like it, tough. Make photos of your child unavailable to her until she proves she can be mature about it.
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  4. 12-03-2011 05:58 PM #4
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    Even if she is not your friend on FB you can BLOCK her and she can not see any of your post, even if you still have friends in common she can not see anything you write or pictures you post.
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