Friend's Dad Revealed Crazy News

**lizzardb63** · 12-21-2011 10:10 AM

I have a friend who was at a Christmas gathering with some of her family. Some how it got brought up that she doesn't look like her dad and her dad said "Well, you might not be mine, you might be <insert name>" So she replied with "ha ha, yeah right" and he goes "no I'm serious"...so she was stressing about it and her dad ended up calling her later that night and said "You know I was only joking, I am pretty sure you're mine. I mean I was in the delivery room with your mother when she had you." Well... "pretty sure" isn't a "yes I was completely joking and you're 100% mine."

So now here she is 27 years old, completely dumbfounded. She now questions whether she even had any blood relation not only to her dad, but her 1/2 sister. She would be devistated to find out she isn't actually related to either.

The situation gets even more complicated. Her mother had passed away when she was 13 years old, so there's no way she can ask her if she had slept with anyone else around the time of conception. She has just expressed how confused she is and doesn't know what to do. If she even wants to know or not, but yet she does want to know, but doesn't want to hear that she ISN'T related.

Any advice or thoughts?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-21-2011 12:21 PM

Liz, she needs to sit down with her Father, face to face and talk about how she felt that he had said that, even in jest and that now she wonders.

If he "wasn't joking" then he should be man enough to say, he was never sure and discuss it, she's 27.

But ultimately, whether she's "related" or not, he made a very clear statement " I was in the delivery room" only a "Father" would do that and he's been looking after her since, for 27 years... As a Father.

**jns** · 12-21-2011 07:09 PM

With her father going along with a joke that someone else started, I think she is being a little thin skinned. If her father had protested that she was his daughter, the joking would have only gotten worse, maybe much worse.

The best way to be sure is with genetic testing. Does she have an uncertain relationship with her father? Even if her mother was around, she could have repressed the memories.

**lizzardb63** · 12-22-2011 08:46 AM

She called her aunt and asked her about it. Her mom was 16 when she got pregnant. Her aunt said her mom's specific words were "<insert name> is not the father" (which is her dad). She is actually being very positive about it because she said she has found a greater respect for her dad now that he knew the whole time and CHOSE to take on that responsibility, since he didn't actually have to. He was a great dad and raised her to be a great person. She's recognizes how amazing that is. She has decided to try and find her biological father (if the blood tests show that he 100% isn't her father) because she is planning on starting a family soon and would like to know the medical history.