Thread: Bitter and don't get why?

I understand what you're saying by moving on with your boyfriend, but where are you moving on to (beside marriage)? His family are still going to be there and people don't change personalities. Is it possible that with his sisters speech you were reading too far into the fact that you were last? Maybe she didn't mean to make you feel that way (I don't know her, but it's just a guess). What does your boyfriend want from his family? Is he just as frustrated as you?

Don't feel too bad for him not getting super involved with wedding plans, my fiance doesn't get too involved, because he thinks if he lets me go alone or with a bridesmaid I will get exactly what I want and there is no way that he can "screw it up" lol.

I would suggest sitting down and talking to his parents WITH your boyfriend and talking to them about how you're both feeling. Perhaps it would be good for him to be there because then the won't get the misconception that you're trying to push things or rush things.

I can't really discuss this openly with his family. I feel like if I bring it up with him, he will just categorize me into exactly what he doesn't want from a wife. In his previous marriage, he was the one having to give up so much of himself and family so now I think he's not willing to compromise. I knew that before getting involved and it was never a problem.

I was expecting more. I'm supposed to be happy and instead I feel like my wedding is just a bill for his family. I've been so candid and friendly through the years- open about my own family's faults and now I feel like I can't command any respect. I feel like chopped liver and feel like he may have felt with his ex- wife. If that makes any sense.

I can't find a happy medium in social relationships. Not give away too much but also get something back. I feel like I'm always giving with nothing to show for it. Not even respect.

Also, he's not really feeling the same way- so it's not really a WE situation maybe more like a ME situation. I just want to live with him and be able to say no I don't really feel like hanging out with his family- I mean I am sort of forced to since they are always there.

I just called him and he said he'd call me right back- he his installing something for his sister. Seriously she can't read a manual? Can't do anything for herself. I'm always on the backburner.

Let it slide off your back. In-laws will be that way. You can't change them and you can't get ride of them. Don't let if bother you. Just smile and tell yourself "what ever." Mother-in-laws always say insensitive stuff. If she liked you before, its probably a sign that now she feels even more close to you like you are her daughter and is telling you what to do without trying to be sensitive about it.

There will always be some jeolousy from other people when you are planning a wedding. Just take a deep breadth and know that you are having this amazing day, not the other people. Planning a wedding is stressful. It is probably making you more sensitive then usual. Same goes from the in-laws. They are stressing about it too, just in a different way and have forgone the niceties.

Time to take a long hot bath or go get a massage