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    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
    If your children don't like you. Look in the mirror. You are doing something wrong. I have children and they tell me every night that I am the best mom in the world and they love me forever. I am kind, respectful and loving to my children in return they are the same to me.
    Quote Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
    If you are spending time with your child when they are young. They will want to spend time with you when they are older. When children are teenagers they "lose" part of thier brain. The parent needs to be the other part and the parent also needs to be understanding that the teenagers brain is developing and changing. I know child/teenage development and child/teenage psychology. Usually the teenager will be back to normal when they become an adult. If they are not back to normal the parent was not there for them when they needed it most.
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    I don't need anymore examples Kayla. It is not that hard to understand children. Children are not aliens from another planet. They need love, understanding, friendship, respect and most of all they need your time.
    This for the majority of cases is true. However, there are instances though they may be few in which a child grows to not like/respect a parent(s) where the parent is at no fault - drugs, alcohol, bad friend influence etc. at the root of it.

    You can be the best parent in the world but that does not guarantee a good child.

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    Again, if a child is hanging with the wrong crowd, drugs, etc. The parent can't just sit back and let that happen. The parent needs to be the strong wall against such bad influences and if the child is doing drugs - they need to be put into rehab - even if it is kicking and screaming the whole way. There will be times when your kid won't like you but it should be short lived. You know you did something wrong if your on your death bed and your kids hate your guts.

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    The day you can not physically pick up the
    child and walk a half mile, you have lost
    that kind of control.

    Kids will say they are going to the library
    and be in the Mall.

    Kids will go to school and find the worst
    person in the world to be their friend.

    Kids will go away to University and go nuts.

    All you can do is try to create an ability
    that they can make an intelligent choice.

    Judgement.

    So if everyone at the party is putting
    a pencil up their nose, your child isn't
    doing it.

    You lose control when the child goes
    to school and sees what other kids
    do.

    My mother never gave me soft drinks.
    Never.
    When I was 12 I bought a coca cola.
    I drank it!
    Never tasted it before.

    I drank it a few times, then stopped
    about a year later and only drank it
    as an adult when I had to drive and
    there was no hot coffee to get..so
    I drank it...

    It sounds real dumb, but....

    My daughter, who never had junk food
    in her life grew up and became a KFC addict.
    She thinks that's food.
    (She's dumber than me cause she still eats it)

    All you can do is have the kind of relationship
    where the kids have some background in
    sensible judgement.




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    Quote Originally Posted by kaylar View Post

    The day you can not physically pick up the
    child and walk a half mile, you have lost
    that kind of control.
    Exactly! Unless you are in their presence 24/7 you do not have complete control of the influences in their life. As Kaylar says all you can do is your best and hope/pray that "sticks".

    I believe both of you are correct in what you are saying. There are instances where the parents are at fault (and I believe this is the vast majority of it) and there are instances where the parents are not at fault.

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    The reason why I brought it up was that
    in some cases there is no answer.

    The parents did their best, no question.
    Even the sister or brother of a child
    who doesn't like his parent(s) is as
    at sea as the parents are.

    One assumes somebody did something...
    but in these cases no one did anything.

    There is no 'trigger'.

    It's like hating your husband because
    he isn't as handsome as your best
    friend's husband.

    Or not as bright as your cousin.

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    Dragonfly- I'm guessing that your children weren't teenagers at this time....or even adolescents...My children loved me and said that I was the best mom ever! However, this was before puberty....

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