Thread: My Children Don't Like Me

Again, if a child is hanging with the wrong crowd, drugs, etc. The parent can't just sit back and let that happen. The parent needs to be the strong wall against such bad influences and if the child is doing drugs - they need to be put into rehab - even if it is kicking and screaming the whole way. There will be times when your kid won't like you but it should be short lived. You know you did something wrong if your on your death bed and your kids hate your guts.

The day you can not physically pick up the
child and walk a half mile, you have lost
that kind of control.

Kids will say they are going to the library
and be in the Mall.

Kids will go to school and find the worst
person in the world to be their friend.

Kids will go away to University and go nuts.

All you can do is try to create an ability
that they can make an intelligent choice.

Judgement.

So if everyone at the party is putting
a pencil up their nose, your child isn't
doing it.

You lose control when the child goes
to school and sees what other kids
do.

My mother never gave me soft drinks.
Never.
When I was 12 I bought a coca cola.
I drank it!
Never tasted it before.

I drank it a few times, then stopped
about a year later and only drank it
as an adult when I had to drive and
there was no hot coffee to get..so
I drank it...

It sounds real dumb, but....

My daughter, who never had junk food
in her life grew up and became a KFC addict.
She thinks that's food.
(She's dumber than me cause she still eats it)

All you can do is have the kind of relationship
where the kids have some background in
sensible judgement.

Originally Posted by kaylar

The day you can not physically pick up the
child and walk a half mile, you have lost
that kind of control.

Exactly! Unless you are in their presence 24/7 you do not have complete control of the influences in their life. As Kaylar says all you can do is your best and hope/pray that "sticks".

I believe both of you are correct in what you are saying. There are instances where the parents are at fault (and I believe this is the vast majority of it) and there are instances where the parents are not at fault.

The reason why I brought it up was that
in some cases there is no answer.

The parents did their best, no question.
Even the sister or brother of a child
who doesn't like his parent(s) is as
at sea as the parents are.

One assumes somebody did something...
but in these cases no one did anything.

There is no 'trigger'.

It's like hating your husband because
he isn't as handsome as your best
friend's husband.

Or not as bright as your cousin.