Thread: in laws

Originally Posted by ibba81

i am pretty new with this all but i have been in a relationship for 8 years and we have 3 children together we are not married yet but whatever my problem is much more bigger then that. well let me start with the step mother in law she came into me boyfriends life when he was 6 years old and she was 16 years old and his father was 30 something if that is not crazy enough she from the get go did not want the kids a part of his or her lives so she treated them like a peice of **** pardon my mouth it all started to teach them to steal for her and then there half sister that she had about 1.5 years after they met and just basiclly tought them all the wrong things in life never had food in the house the never were aloud to sit on the couch because she didnt like them or there mother your talking young children. well i got with my boyfriend 8 years ago and i was later on told these stories by all 3 of the stepchildren. she now has started new tactics in life like trying to mess our family up she has started a bunch of problems with me because i will not let her control me and my family she pulled me aside after she talked all this stuff and started to tell me that i was being rude becuase i would not go out of my way to talk to her my thing is if i dont like you i am not going to fake it to make it it is known well then she tells me that i am a loser and myboyfriend is never going stay with me and i am a thing that comes and goes and i will be replaced and that my home life was bad when i came from a very loving family we had our hard times but what family hasnt and this is not the first time this has happened with me or another fmily member i just dont know what to do i act like it doesnt bother me but i have kids and i really dont want my children to be around her and i do not wnt her at my house nor around but i feel that i should let my kids go supervised only and form there on feelings. i need help i have a mother in law from please help.

Has your b/f told you about the way the step-mother raised them? Have you talked to him about the way his step-mom talked to you?
Does he back you up?

If so, then you stand your ground. I wouldn't want my kids around a woman that teaches children to steal and be schemers ... and you're dmn right I wouldn't let that ol' cow control me!

And she has the nerve to call you a "loser"???? I'd have to tell her, "I'm not the one walking around with an 'L' on my forehead."
She is only 10 years older than your b/f... how could she possibly raise any children when she was just a child herself? And what could the dad possibly have in common with a 16-year-old (other than the obvious)?