Thread: Terrible Family Matters

Well, I've had this problem for a little over a year, basically since I met my b/f. My entire family hates him, that doesn't bother me, what bothers me is the fact that they can't come to accept the fact that I love him. My father nor mother ever gave me a decent reason for hating him. They never spoke to him, never used his name when I used to speak with them, and the two reasons that they did give me were moronic.

See, sometime last year my sister started dating this friend of a friend and a few weeks later I find out that he was moving in with the family!!! My sister had dated him only for three weeks! When I asked my dad about it he said that it was my mother's problem and not his even though his name was on the house too. So I decided that I would visit my b/f and I began returning to the house at about 4 a.m. to 4:30 a.m. My b/f would always tell me to call him when I got home and that's what I did, every night. Then one day my parents tell me this, "You need to come home early because every time you come home you wake him up and he has to get up at 7 in the morning." .......what happened here? The last time I checked, my sister's boyfriend was a "guest" in the house since his arrangement was this: He was to stay until he could find a place for himself then he would leave. That was the agreement.

Well, he never left about two months later. I continued my regular visits with my b/f until one Saturday night I couldn't take my family anymore and I stayed with my mom's sister. I told her not to call my mom because I don't want them to know where I was staying for the night and I told my b/f to take my car back to his place so that my parents wouldn't find it. Well my aunt called my mom, I got into serious trouble because of the car thing. When I returned Sunday morning, my dad took the starter off my car so I couldn't go anywhere, I was so upset.

I called my b/f and told him to come pick me up, him and his mom did. My mom swore that he kidnapped me....I was 19 at the time. Somebody tell me what is wrong with them??? My b/f has a high school diploma and some college for psychology and my sister's b/f has nothing!! Not even a GED! They like him more for whatever reason, I don't know! I don't like him, he seems to me to be a user and I was right.

It's been over a year since I moved out of my parents house, well my mom tried to get between my b/f and I but I came back and said I was still moving out. Anyway, they still don't accept the fact that I love him, they can't accept him, and my sister is now 7 months pregnant, not married, has no intention of marrying the baby's father which is her b/f. Oh and they both live with my mom and dad. Oh and my brother is supposedly getting married this Dec but he began to side with my sister on everything so now they are all my enemies.

I got my own cell phone and haven't given it to them, I gave it to my dad's oldest sister and my grandmother because I like them but I told them not to give out my number because I don't want to talk to my family. I am waiting for an apology from them. My sister told my b/f last year this: "Oh I'm sorry you have her. You know she's the left overs and I'm the better twin." WTF?!?! An apology I am still waiting for and my dad saw me the day before my birthday to give me a card and some money, it was in his handwriting so I know that he cares somewhat for me. He's the type of person that goes with the flow but I'm waiting for an apology from him too because he called my b/f a Motherf*****. I hope you all know what that means.

Umm, yea, so can someone help me out here? The only support I have is from my b/f and his mother who I see as my mother now. So, I feel somewhat depressed, I'm not as happy as I was, is it because I am still going through this "transitional" phase of disowning my family completely or what? Please help, thank you!!