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interfering inlaws!
Hi all,i am hoping someone could give me advice.My husbands family and i just never get on.They constantly interfere and enjoy causing rows between me and my husband.In my husbands eyes they can do no wrong,and he always sides with them.He jumps whenever they tell him to do something,even if we have plans of our own.Lets his sisters turn up at our house,who just sit back and let their kids trash the place,never tells them off about it.They constantly invite him to go on outings,without me.My husband is refusing to move area to escape all the aggro,because he enjoys being around his family,of who all live very close to us.I dont know if hes like it because hes scared of them,or because he hasnt cut his apron strings.He knows how bad i feel regarding all of this,but refuses to do anything,about it.Tells me if i dont like it he will move out.Exactly what their after.HELP!
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March 2008 "Poster of the Month"
This didn't sound too terrible until you said "Tells me if I don't like it he wil move out". You are married - his first priority is YOU, not his family.
If it wasn't for that, I'd put it down to the usual problems with dealing with families.
If his family's kids trash the place, does he at lest do half the clean-up?
His family shouldn't be inviting him and not you.
Is there some original cause to all the hostility between you and the family?
I am sorry, your situation sounds really bad .
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I agree with rcoreyus, he needs to put you first but apparently he doesnt otherwise why would he say that he would move out if you dont like it?
Right there he's choosing them over you, your opinion and feelings doesnt seem to matter to him when it comes to his family. You NEED to have a serious talk with him and set your boundries, see what happens from there. Goodluck 
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Wow!
Sounds like he hasn't cut the apron strings yet... and from the way he's acting, he doesn't want to!
His priorities are NOT in order. The wife comes FIRST... then his extended family.
His vows tell him to "forsake all others" which simply means wife and children of his OWN family come first. Mother, Father, Sister, Brother and all others are secondary.
You don't drop what you're doing to go on outings with your sisters, brothers, mom and dad;
You don't let your neices and nephews "trash" your house--- and you certainly don't let their parents continue to come in YOUR home and let those kids do that. They're being disrespectful to their brother AND his wife, and he should have more sense than that.
I don't understand what your husband married you for if he wasn't prepared to stand up to his family and let them know that the woman he married is the woman they're going to RESPECT!
He has a lot of growing up to do.
Quitters never win; Winners don't give in 
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