Thread: sister in law emotionally attached to my boyfriend

Originally Posted by going nuts

He doesn't see that she has a 'thing ' for him. I suggested that he talks to her, you know just subtly letting her know how much he loves me and that we are extremely happy together. His reply was wait til she sees the ring on your finger that should speak for itself. I feel like I am on my own for this one.
And still my boyfriend is clueless and he get irritated when I bring these things up

He doesn't see that she likes him? No, he knows, there is no way he hasn't noticed.

She's the type that actually brought valentines chocolates and a card for him at his work!! and said that it was from the kids-is it normal to bring Valentines treats to your brother-in-law on Valentines Day???? Funny thing is the other brother-in-law didn't get any treats from her!!! And I could go on about things she has done that are similar to this.And still my boyfriend is clueless and he get irritated when I bring these things up

He still didn't notice after all of this? He's either lying to you or IMO way too dumb to marry. This should have thrown up about a dozen red flags for him and -- for you.
There are a few possibilities here, so let's start out with the innocent ones first. It is possible that he is just enjoying the extra attention, like having a fan or something. And, maybe, he's down playing the whole thing because he does really, really love you, and he knows just how futile the sister-in-laws attempts at seducing him are.
OR
Maybe he has turned this into a little game, enjoying the attention from her and watching you get all protective and worried.
It worries me that he wouldn't go talk to her after you expressed so much concern.
It also worries me that he's getting irritated with all of this, when HE IS THE ONE WHO CAN PUT A STOP TO THIS.

I'm sorry, I hate to spin so many scenarios, I'm sure you are "going nuts" enough as it is, but the bottomline is, you need to stop waiting for him to do something, and, like you said -- confront her.
It doesn't have to be a rude confrontation, just a conversation.
Good luck.

Originally Posted by going nuts

My problem was resolved. Thank God prayers work.

Oh, well...um...nevermind, then.

Thank you very much for your advice Still Nobody. The same night I posted my situation on this site she called. I know the conversation would have been better face-to-face but anyhow, the main thing is that we talked.

Thanks to you too Jubes Inquest.

Originally Posted by going nuts

Thank you very much for your advice Still Nobody. The same night I posted my situation on this site she called. I know the conversation would have been better face-to-face but anyhow, the main thing is that we talked.

Thanks to you too Jubes Inquest.

I'm really glad everything worked out for you.

It was so weird to push the "submit reply" button and then see: My problem was resolved. Here I was typing away, trying to think of some way to help, and it was already over.
That was funny.
Now I know how poor Charlie Brown felt when he would go running at that football, determined to kick the heck out it, only to have Lucy pull it away at the last second.

Seriously though, I'm glad things are better now.