Thread: sister in-law help...

Now don't go drop-kicking her!

Seriously, though, it is HER problem that she blames YOU for "taking away her brother".
That's just sick and immature of her from jump.

Your in-laws have not yet accepted you for being their son and brother's choice in a wife. It's not YOUR FAULT. There's nothing you can do.

And remember this also: a person that is jealous of another person will always blame the person they're jealous of for whatever goes wrong in their life.
She got pregnant then got married; her marriage didn't work out and she's angry with YOU .... ????
Her marriage was NOT your problem; but she may think if her brother was more available to her by NOT being married to YOU, she wouldn't have these problems!!

That's wrong. You are not and never were her problem. Her problem is that she doesn't want to admit to herself that she's responsible, or at least half responsible, for her divorce--and responsible for a lot of other things wrong in her life.

You & your husband have done the best thing possible: moved 200 miles away from those in-laws. They wouldn't be happy until they've completely broken up your marriage.
And those nasty, cruel things she said about your baby... ??? Don't even worry about it. You are a mother now and you are going to be a good mom.

I also had a female give me a silly book when the female called herself trying to tell me off ... in her own nasty way. She high-lighted every passage that she thought would insult me or tell me off. I didn't read the book, but my hubby read the high-lighted passages and said, "Don't even read that garbage. Just give her back the book. Those high-lighted parts are just what she's using to tell you off."

I simply returned the book and told her, "I didn't have time to read your book, but here it is--thanks anyway."

She had the most disappointing look on her face...!!

Encourage yourself and think positively about your family. You now have gotten a fresh-start away from interfering in-laws.

Originally Posted by francinegarcia

i know how u all feel who problems with inlaws..i have been with my fiance for 4 years and his younger sister hates me because she thinks im ugly and hates my personality and thinks her brother can do better then me when he loves me very much and i love him very much.. shes trying very hard to break us up and to turn him agaisnt me and its hard for him to tell her things cuz thats his sister and he loves her of course ..i dont want to come between them but i feel hurt and confused cuz i feel he should stikc up fo rme and our relationship regardless if thats his sister or not..especailly if he wants me to be his wife and motehr of his children ..i dont want to live liek this for ever if i marry him its not rite or fair wat should i do?

Francine,

You can't change his sister's ways, but your b/f has to deal with his sister when it comes to you.

If he's not standing up for you, then that's a red-flag and it shows you that he isn't strong enough to stand up for you before his family, and/or he thinks more of his family than he does the woman he's supposed to love.

Watch your b/f's actions when it comes to situations with you and his sister.
If he stands up for you, then that's a good sign he is really for YOU. If he can't, then don't waste your time, because he will always allow his family's opinions and wishes to come before YOU.